Top 10 Reasons Why You Should Date a Geek Girl
10. She has traumatic memories from her K-12 education, or rather, the social interactions from her years before college. Your irrational fear of public bathrooms is not so irrational to her.
9. She’s smart, maybe even smarter than you. When she sees the string of acronyms after your name in your sig file, she gets excited. Conversely, she’ll taunt you when her string is longer.
8. She won’t look at you like you have two heads when you complain about bandwidth, when you scream at your computer, when you’ve taken apart your Xbox, when you start sewing a costume to wear at GenCon…
7. She understands your nutritional needs. She bakes cookies and orders pizza for D&D nights. When you’re playing WoW, she’ll cut your dinner into bite-sized pieces so you can eat and heal the main tank simultaneously.
6. If she doesn’t share your obsession with Star Wars, she at least understands it. The idea of a room wallpapered with figurines intrigues her and she’ll pick up a lightsaber to battle you to determine who takes out the garbage.
5. Geek girls come in all shapes and sizes from pixie to Willendorf goddess. Their hair is spikey, bobbed, down to their waist, or in braids. They are not slaves to fashion, but march to the beat of their own drummer, even if that drummer demands they wear shirts with jokes about counting in binary.
4. She’ll love you for your smarts, and if those smarts net you a lot of cash, that’s just the icing on the cake. (Everyone knows a really good cake doesn’t need icing!) Her intentions are to find a lifemate, not a lifeline. Besides, she’s smart enough to make her own fortune.
3. She loves to learn about anything and everything, so life and love are never vanilla. Nuff said?
2. Her friends are other geek girls, who you can set up with your geek friends. Not only will you be a hero, all those geeks would make a great WoW guild or D&D group!
1. If you’re a geek guy, she’ll trust you. If you’re a regular guy, she has eyes and ears everywhere and when she dumps you, you’ll know why. You won’t be sure of how she figured it out, but if I told you, she wouldn’t be able to do it again. 
Don’t have that geek girl of your dreams? I can help you find her!
Happy dating, geek friends.
E. Foley is a geek girl extraordinaire. She writes great online dating profiles for geeks and non-geeks, helping clients all over the world find love. She is the National Online Dating Examiner, columnist at Dating Sites Reviews, and a ghostwriter for several other dating & relationships sites. She lives in Maryland with DaveTheGame and her two adorable cats, Mr. Peanut and Don Juan. (Email e, or follow @geeksdreamgirl on Twitter.)
I was wondering about your “string of acronyms”…
If I ever found a girl who would even consider battling me with a light saber for division of house hold chores…. well, lets just say I might not just fall down and would worship at her feet, but it would be close.
Boy, I feel down now.
Are there really girls out there that have that kind of fun?
Hey E,
Found you through my buddy Yax. Nice new digs you got there!
I found my geek girl (A Speech Language Pathologist that loves computers and Heroes!) and while she’s not a gamer girl, she definitively digs me. I married her and we have nice geeky kids now!
Good post on the charms of the geek goddess!
I’d love to trade links with you if ya don’t mind… I have this little RPG blog that’s not doing too bad..
I’ll put you up on the blog roll just now.
After reading this I now know what I need in a relationship. Should have tried to date a geek girl before but they are not easy to find. Somebody should start a geek dating website. I would be the first customer.
Hi everyone!
I’m home from work and have 15 minutes to check email and do everything before I have to leave for a gig (Easter time is big business for musicians!).
Karsten, my string involves B.A. and NBCT. I’m hoping to add M.Ed. and D.M.A. in future years.
Catdragon, I’d be up for that kind of battle. Or perhaps a game of Munchkin.
Chatty – I’ll gladly linklove you as soon as I get home tonight!
Peo – There are a few out there, but honestly, your best bet is to cast your net wide on a popular service like Match.com. More people to choose from and people keep their profiles more up to date.
Thanks for all the great comments, friends!!
e.
At Origins last year there were advertisements for a geek-centric dating site (and I think one that focused on comic geeks was floating around for a while.) I’ll see if I can dig it up.
Just found you by accident, and I’m sooooo digging it! I too am a geek girl, in fact I have been dubbed Queen of the Dorks by my friends (who are fellow geeks themselves AND happen to be all male) within the last couple of weeks. I got lucky and found my geek counterpart 15 years ago. There IS hope for all the lonely geek boys and girls out there. It is nice to be able to have marathon conversations on the expansive Lucas universe, and actually have someone who understands what in the hell you’re talking about. Or, even better, someone you can argue with over which is superior: Ravenloft, Forgotten Realms, or which edition of D&D is the best to play. As far as Star Wars in the bedroom, I drew the line when he said he wanted to decorate the entire room in Star Wars, complete with Death Star pillow cases. (The life size stand up cutout of slave Leia staring at me from the corner of the room was enough. ;P) Thanks for the fun article!
Greetings fellow geek girl! Aren’t we lucky to have found our wonderful geek men?
(Two of my friends have a life sized Darth Vader cutout in their living room. Sometimes I have to double-take because I think it’s a real person!)
Very true. My wife is as big a geek as I am- we did some of our first flirting over D&D and the Buffy musical- and it’s great.
I completely agree with all of this. Now please point me in the direction of a geek girl. I’ve never met a girl as geeky as me. PS. Lightsaber battles for chores? Thats an awesome idea.
Blademaster – they’re out there!
Just gotta keep looking… I’ll give you a hint. Geek girls, like geek guys, tend to live on the internet. That’s why online dating is a great place to find them. 
Ah, as a middle-aged engineer D&Der who reads physics articles for fun, I wish I could have found an appropriate geek girl when I was young. As it is, my wife (non-geek) considers “geek” to be an insult!
Come here in Italy!! I wanna know you !!
You just missed it, Giorgio – I was in Venice about 12 days ago.
Oh my god… I doscover your blog only today…
Ok, now you have my email address, mail me before the next holyday here.
And this is why me and my geeky self have hooked up with an even geekier more wonderful boy. I’m sending this to all my friends to try and convert them to geekdom.
Helluva late post… I’ve tried Match.com and the site isn’t bad… But it ain’t great either…
Chemistry.com… Way too effing expensive for my taste…
At EHarmony, I never finished their damn personality test!!
All in all… If I had a choice, I would probably choose Match again… But, as a classic Beck song states:
“No money, no honeys!”
Based on my previous experiences, I have a certain level of loathing when it comes to online dating.
Yeah, I’m in the same boat as @greengrunt
So funny and so true!
I Dugg it
I’ve been dubbed geekling, I love the website, adore this list! a good place online to find people is Plentyoffish.com its free and you can weed out non geeks with your profile interests and what not… hope that helped.
@ Morteg – Glad you like the place! Stay awhile, we’re a friendly bunch of geeks here. I’ve had a moderate amount of success with PlentyOfFish… but I found the interface to be obnoxious. Has it gotten any better recently?
Dear E,
sorry for the delayed response… I guess it depends how long ago you were on it. But I’ve found very compatible people there. People with brains!! writers, artists and other assortments of geekdom. Also, its a fast, free site…god! I sound as if I work for them!! Try it again maybe I’ll stumble on one of you for some healthy conversation..
Much luck,
M.I.D.
I am the only person I know with a toy lightsaber once bought a lightsaber (double-ended lights up as well cost me extra
) for a boyfriend and he thought it was childish and gave it to his cousin. :O
Oh to find a nice, non-taken guy that is a geek… that’s my fantasy.
x another geek girl
@ Anon – Let us know where you are. We have plenty of eligible geek gentlemen here
I already knew that dating a Geek Girl would be cool, I want to know where to find them!
Sigh…. I grew up with and went through college knowing a lot of geek gals and guys, playing d&d, and discussing metaphysics as well as the average air speed of unladen northern-bearing swallows in order to know what to tell Frenchmen before entering their castles.
They’ve all moved away, gotten married, etc. It’s hard to find other geeky gals that aren’t already traumatized by attempting to date real world guys.
The elusive Geek-guy that will be willing to give this geek-girl a chance. Down here it goes both ways in one finding the other. One day…perhaps ^-^. Finding someone that won’t sell of my collection of gaming books would be awesome for once.
@ Fugue – Tell us more about you and maybe one of my readers is that Elusive Geek Guy you’ve been searching for!
My geeky hobbies are pretty broad, from cons, to D&D, to video games, to music, to riddles and games, to…well you get the idea. Unfortunately in waaaaaaay south Texas coastal bend, geek men are slim pickings. Oh, and I’m a music teacher.
Hey all, I am a geek guy that has been really looking for a female geek of my own. GOD it is tough to find them out there, I have tried and tried, and its just that much tough finding these wonderful beauties out there. But I am not and have not given up yet.
I am african American and live waay up in Canada, moved here few years ago, if you are out there please come out and meet me
its been quite a while I have been searching for a site like this and thank goodness I found it! Having a geek woman who can sit and play WoW and puzzles with me, will make all the difference I have been yearning for in my life, Please Help 
@ Fugue – With a name like fugue, I’d expect at least a music lover!
@ Wolverine – Match.com and eharmony both offer Canadian sites. eharmony has Free Communication weekend right now… you can email your matches for free through 1/4.
Thanks E.
I had tried E-Harmony before, didn’t work as I expected, but it was before they introduced the free communication weekend feature. I will give it a go again, and Match.com sounds good as well, I will let you know how it goes. And for any geek gal that will be dropping by in here, contact me
. If I get lucky, I will post my news here and any other progress that I have made so far 
and help other geek fellows out, thanks E, and everyone for such insightful, supportive and informative comments, love you guys! GEEKS RULE!!! 
Wolvy.
@ Wolvy – Good luck!
My geek girlfriend understands implicitly that The Return of the Jedi is the best of the original three Star Wars movies, and can explain why, even better than I can.
I love my geeky girlfriend. She’s the best.
Warren
Oh, by the way, I was kidding, in the previous comment.
Empire Strikes Back is obviously the best of the original three.
I wrote it that way, because my girlfriend would explode with righteous indignation if she read that first comment.
And THAT is why I love her SO much.
Warren
@ warren – You totally made me laugh with your comments. Sounds like you caught a great geek girl!
I’m your full-blown stereotypical geek, with all the associated habits. I like the original Star Wars trilogy, I play D&D on a near-religious basis, and watch enough Anime to choke a server.
I stumbled onto this site by complete accident, and I must say, the virtues of geek girls are exactly the same virtues I have myself often extolled when asked the question “why geek girls?”
It’s about time someone finally said it for the masses. Kudos!
I would love to find a geeky girl. And I have found a few. Right alongside their boyfriends.
I stumbled across this site after geek2geek.com I am on all sorts of dating (& social networking) sites (plentyoffish, geek2geek, eHarmony, myspace, facebook,…) and I am failing miserably. Not sure if I am doing something wrong, or what.
So is there a section of this site that has profiles of peoples?
@chris “and watch enough Anime to choke a server.” Dude that quote is awesome! I will quote you henceforth when describing my own watching habits (aka server choking).
Loving that this post still gets comments all the time!
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The reason I am not dating a geek girl? Well, I married mine.
Basically, my advice is go where the geek women are at, Sci-Fi, Fantasy and Anime Conventions are a good place (where geeks go to spawn like salmon). If electronic gaming is your passion, then PAX is a good place.
Practice basic hygiene. Advanced grooming is a plus.
Listen and learn how to ask open questions. No one likes a know-it-all. Especially if she is smarter than you are.
Most of all be proud of your geek culture. Don’t hide it.
My best friend and I have been working hard on our own Male Geek Appreciation campaign for years. But it’s appalling how hard it is for my single female geek friends to find a guy! Thanks so much for your efforts on their behalf.
There’s another important plus for the RPG geeks:
A female geek will not TOUCH YOUR DICE. All she asks is that you return the favor.
As for me, I married my own geek. The wonderful man has been know to bring ME food to the computer (mmm, chocolate) so that I can eat while I PvP.
Curious…is there like ANY kind of geek in the deep South Texas area?…I’m telling you I’d have an easier time getting an Ettercap to understand what a half-diminished leading tone chord is. ~Geek and deprived down south~
@ Fugue – sorry to hear it! Have you checked soulgeek.com or meetup.com?
yup and yup….i guess i’m just gonna hafta face the music of being a lonely geek girl
@ Fugue – Nah! Considered moving to a more geek-friendly city?
School has me stuck for a bit
Yeah, that might do it.
Don’t be afraid to expand your search north to the big cities, though. You might find someone in Austin/Dallas/Houston who is either willing to come to you, or who you’re willing to go to once school is done.
While you’re still in school (and I’m assuming high school here, if it’s college this is a bit less applicable), however, don’t worry too much about it. Focus on getting through that, and worry about finding someone to spend the rest of your life with once you know what you want to do for it.
I found my Geek Girl 25 years ago, WAY before Geek was Chic.
We’ve been married nearly 22 years and it couldn’t be more wonderful.
And yes, the only Silicon enhancement she’s interested in is her new Netbook.
She is my goddess, and she even WoWs with me.
Okay, I’m so geeky (& old), my name is from the days of BBS’es when you were limited to 8 characters for your handle. Yeah. That’s dating myself.
I’m a gamer geekgirl (it even says so on my blog). I met my SO at the gaming club in college. That said, for the out of college crowd, I recommend cons, Ren Faires & comic book or gaming shops. If you can deal with it, join a living campaign. You’ll get lots of tabletop rpg and meet lots of people.
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i would say also: remember that not all geek girls work in geek fields. i have a unix server in my closet but i teach pilates for rehab…
you can still tell i’m geeky if you talk to me for three seconds about my work or whatever but you have to look a little.
hrm… yes, look for the hidden geek.
and whoever said grooming helps? i dumped the engineer because all his damn clothing had holes in it and he NEVER trimmed his beard or brushed his teeth well. simple things that are so often missed.
in other words boys? if you smell bad i don’t want to have sex with you.
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oh, and one more thing… guys? look IN your circle of friends… see that girl you treat like a guy? that’s the girl you’re looking for.
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Speaking as a geek guy in Dallas, Fugue, I can tell you that you’ll find a good number of us in Texas cities. And the coast isn’t that far from here. I think most geek guys would be willing to travel a bit to make things work with a geek girl.
@sassinak
I agree with why you dumped the guy for the most part, but I have to say, if any girl wants to date a male engineer, they have to be able to accept the beard.
It’s an engineer thing. Shaving is inefficient! I have about 4 days growth right now. We clean up nice when we need to, though.
graham: would you:
trim the beard to meet her parents? (note i DO NOT say shave)
make sex jokes about her to her sister’s mother in law?
wear clothes with holes in them to meet her aunt/cousins?
go to the doctor/dentist if she suggested you might maybe be brewing something unhealthy in your mouth/guts?
[edited by E - let's keep this PG-13. Thanks!]
shall i continue?
*grin*
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Hey I want to get a geek girl.. that’s just what i want.. a geek girl.. who loves me….
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@sassinak
Oh, no question, he was probably worth dumping. All I’m talking about is the beard.
As for the trimming when you go meet her parents, I went to a family thing over the weekend, and realised about 3 hours in that I had forgotten to shave. If someone had asked or pointed it out in advance, I would have shaved, but I generally forgot because it wasn’t on my to-do list.
The rest is just inconsiderate, but the beard thing is common among engineers.
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Being a geek is NOT an excuse for poor hygiene. It may be less interesting than other things you have on your mind, but that doesn’t mean it’s less important.
@Teletheus
Agreed, and nobody’s saying it is. But not trimming your beard really isn’t a hygiene thing.
It’s appearance and/or fashion, but it isn’t a health issue and it won’t make you sick.
And if your beard is so grody that is becomes a matter of hygiene? Yeah, that’s way beyond engineer beard.
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@Graham – That’s true. I was referring more to the other things sassinak mentioned.
I have noticed, however, that the majority of the women I’ve dated aren’t fans of facial hair. They generally like how it looks when it’s neatly trimmed — I’ve gotten compliments when I’ve done the Van Dyck, for example (which, incidentally, really needs a new name) — but they don’t like how it feels.
Heh. No argument here on that one, though it depends on the girl.
Some love a good soup-strainer, some hate it. I think it really depends on how it looks on the guy, though. If it looks great, many women will learn to live with the scratchiness.
As for the Van Dyck, whether it really needs a new name depends on how you pronounce it. If you use the short “ih” vowel sound… yeah, then it needs a better name But it’s actually a long vowel sound, and should be pronounced as Van Dyke, which just reminds me of Dick van Dyke.
You could try referring to it with the name of a different person who wore the style. “The Freud” may be even worse, but I like the “Toulouse-Lautrec”, or the “Monty Wooley”.
sorry for the non pg comment milady, don’t know the rules here…
anyway i actually like beards that are mature. what i don’t like is short facial hair because it gets spiky and pointy. once the beard is old it’s kinda nice…
but dude. if you look like you pasted hair that doesn’t match you on your face and no one can find your ears/lips? it’s kind of a problem.
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I guess it kinda depends on the girl. I don’t have many preferences, but I do prefer they at least maintain it. I do like my battles now and again…but getting sneak attacked by someone’s face fuzz is no fun.
There are plenty of us if you know where to look. Geek Girls that is.
I found my geek of a boyfriend on okcupid.com. I couldn’t be happier. Great list!
“She understands your nutritional needs. She bakes cookies and orders pizza for D&D nights. When you’re playing WoW, she’ll cut your dinner into bite-sized pieces so you can eat and heal the main tank simultaneously”
As a Priest on WOW, i have to said that this one made me smile. I’ll marry this kind of angel any day!
I’ve tried eharm so far without much luck. Apparently mentioning my love of nerdity scares girls off. I’ll try some of these other sites and see if I luck out. Thanks for the references. Who knows, maybe I’ll find my princess in another castle instead of Toad once again.
My full time US gov job pays 80K/yr. and my part time private sector sales job pays 5K. Got a COLA in Jan. 2009 and 2 performance pay raises in Mar. and Apr. I get another COLA in Jan. 2010. Also got a $1545 refund on my mortgage escrow and my house payment dropped $115 a month. My only debt is a reasonable mortgage payment. I have a house, 2 cars, 2 college degrees, divorced, with no kids or pets. Got a FICO score of over 800.
So who wants a date with a responsible single guy with a JOB…or two?
Not all of us are feeling the pinch.
Jason the Fed
PS Ladies! If you have no job or make less than 50K don’t waste my time!
“When you’re playing WoW, she’ll cut your dinner into bite-sized pieces so you can eat and heal the main tank simultaneously”
Since I AM the main tank, I don’t think I’d be doing this one (maybe we could cook and cut up dinner together before the raid?).
Now to just find the right geek guy…
I would totally break out my light saber over chores!
@Jason the Fed
Um, if you want to attract geek girls, I think you’re better off touting your resume of Star Trek or Anime conventions you’ve been to or how many lvl 80’s you have. Just speaking from the experience of actually being a geek girl. Cause right now your post makes me want to avoid you like the plague.
silentkiai? i was trying to find a polite way to say that to jason the fed but everything that came out involved words that aren’t useable on this blog
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I guess location has a lot to do with it too. Some places just don’t have many geek guys to choose from, like south Texas for instance.