I’ll tackle that one tomorrow!

This article brought up a question, and I’m pretty sure I’m not the only guy out there who does this. Well, at least I hope not.

Anyway, whenever I try to write anything about myself, I find it hard to put down direct positive facts. It’s not entirely a self-esteem issue, it just seems that anytime I proof something positive about myself, it comes off as exceedingly arrogant, and I cut it.

So…any short and sweet advice for us geek guys who want to sell ourselves but are too concerned about coming off as an incarnation of bloated hubris?

Craig – That’s an interesting site. I’ve never seen it before, but it seems like a neat concept. I’d stick with the same basic rules of writing a single-person profile. Short, sweet, smart.

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At first glance when I saw the pics at the top, I hate to say this, but I thought,”Yep, he’s gay.” Don’t ask me why I thought it, but I’ve hung around enough gay guys, and been to enough gay bars, that let’s just say I swear my gaydar went off. If, and I do say IF, I was to look at those pictures and not have had that first impression, then my other impression would have been,”This dude likes to party-ALOT!” Is it me, or does it seem like every picture he looks like he’s either on his way to getting drunk or he’s already there? Now, if I was to go off of that assumption, sorry guy, not my type. (Also notice he lists four different types of parties, all of which I’m sure there’s alcohol present.) I like to go out and party every once in a while, but I’ve been with an alcoholic before, so thanks but no thanks. I would have settled for one nice solid picture. The only closeups of his face he’s got his eyes closed, and I love a guy with gorgeous eyes. I can’t see his. Well, not on the example set above anyway. I would have liked to have seen a nice picture where he doesn’t appear to be tanked.

That being said, on to the rest of it. I think it’s too daunting. I definitely agree with you that who wants to read all that? It’s nice to get a clear view of a person’s personality/likes/dislikes, but wow was that way too much. The one paragraph with all the yets in it I wanted to skip over entirely by the time I got to the third yet, but I was trying to give it a fair shake. By the time I got to the bottom, my eyes had glazed over and I didn’t care anymore. What also threw me was when he referred to himself as a “28 year old boy”. I don’t know about anyone else, but if I wasn’t attached, I’d be looking for a man, not a boy. I don’t mind a guy that can have boyish qualities. If in moderation can be quite cute and endearing, but when it comes down to it a girl needs stability. A guy that’s gonna stand up beside her when things get hard and not turn into a little pouty baby when he doesn’t get his way. This guy kinda sounds like one of those types. I also red flagged it because he listed so many specific things that he wants in a woman. To me that means one of two things: Either he’s way too frigging picky and that’s why he hasn’t been able to find a girl yet OR as you said, he’s DESPERATE. Desperate ads like that always send me the vibe of being the clingy, whiny, momma’s boys types. Although, some girls may like that, but I for one don’t. Don’t get me wrong, I do love sensitive guys. My hubby-to-be (and fellow geek) has the heart of a poet, but he’s also my Rock of Gibraltar when I need him to be.

This guy could be a wonderful catch for all I know, but he definitely needs to work on his ad. Otherwise, I don’t think he’s going to end up with the kind of girl he’s looking for.