Comments on: Childfree By Choice: Online Dating Profile Considerations and Conundrums

By: kindra

kindra — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 04:15:01 +0000

I agree. If someone has kids or wants kids as a priority, and she’s not reading your profile regarding kid-choices, you really should not feel bad about sending her a polite “no thanks” e-mail. She needs to be thinking about this, especially if she’s in her late 20s, early 30s. She’s in a hurry to have kids (biology). Or if she already has kids.

Some people don’t want children. That’s great! More room for my own offspring and their descendants. The last thing I want to do is waste any of our time on a relationship that will probably go nowhere.

The exception would be if I was looking for a fling, I suppose, but I’d make it clear in the first e-mail that I know he doesn’t want children, and he’ll almost certainly never meet mine, but he looks like a fun guy for a summer romance.

By: Dear Anon-O-Box: Please Say You Don’t Want Kids

Dear Anon-O-Box: Please Say You Don’t Want Kids — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 14:33:11 +0000

[...] sure you’ve selected “Don’t Want Kids” in your preferences, but don’t mention it in your profile. It’s better to be mistaken for someone who wants kids than to be mistaken for an ass who [...]

By: e

Thu, 31 Jul 2008 01:31:46 +0000

@ Andy – What people don’t understand is … “But you’re a teacher, you like kids! Why don’t you want any?” What I love most about being a teacher is that by 4 pm, I can go home and only answer to myself, my man and my furbabies. It’s all the fun of parenting, but with frequent vacation time. Perfect.

By: Andy

Andy — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 00:54:59 +0000

Oh, you're CF, too? I'll send this link to the missus, she's passionately CF and defends it publicly. Unfortunately by doing so you open yourself up to zealots that just don't understand and think that you're not doing your part for society. Sigh. Andys last blog post..Did You Miss Dr. Horrible’s Sing Along Blog?

By: Childfree by Choice: More Online Dating Tips

Childfree by Choice: More Online Dating Tips — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 12:30:34 +0000

[...] my previous post on this topic, I focused on profile considerations for those who live the childfree [...]

By: e

Fri, 04 Jul 2008 03:00:55 +0000

Indeed I am, Forte.

By: KidfreeKaye

KidfreeKaye — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 17:48:45 +0000

Unfortunately, you’re probably right that adding “childfree” to your profile text will make some think you are a child-hater. But, that’s too bad there is that stigma. According to my Kidfree Survey, less than 7% of us hate children (i.e. give them a “1″ on a scale of 1 to 10.)

I’m writing a book called “Kidfree & Lovin’ It” for which I am conducting a worldwide survey. Over 2,100 childless have taken it, and I would love all of you to take it too. Just click on this link to take you there:
http://tinyurl.com/2lcjah

Thanks, and enjoy!
KidfreeKaye
http://www.kidfreeandlovinit.com

By: Dave T. Game

Dave T. Game — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 15:30:35 +0000

Good advice, for sure.

By: Forte

Forte — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 13:56:31 +0000

I didn’t know you were a teacher, do I assume Music? You’re like the american female version of me!