Online Dating Etiquette 101: Winks

Winks Make You Look Dumb

Don’t be this guy.

He’s winking.  Doesn’t that just look silly?

If you were a geek girl, wouldn’t you rather see a nice smile and read a few sentences about why he found you interesting?

I know I would!


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Why You Should Never Just Wink

  • Winks are lazy.

It’s one click.  Isn’t your dating life worth more than one click?  It certainly is!  Slow down and decide – why is this girl special? – then write her an email to let her know just that.

  • Winks tell her that you’re interested… but not THAT interested.

If you can’t muster up the motivation to send her a couple sentences of email, how can you expect her to think you were interested in being her partner in life and love?

  • Winks are “tossing the net wide” without thought for what you catch.

No girl wants to be one in a sea of fish.  She’s wondering, “How many other girls did he wink at?

The key to making a girl yours is to make her feel like she’s the only girl in your world.   Start that from day one and you’ll hook her fast!

  • A wink without an email relays a lack of confidence.

Winks can sometimes say:

I think you’re cute, but I’m afraid you’re out of my league.  I’m hoping … maybe… possibly… you’ll write me?  Please?

Step up and email.  Be a man!

I’m not saying totally bypass the wink.  If you use it, follow it up immediately by an email.

Happy dating, geek friends.

About e

Since 2008, E. Foley of Geek’s Dream Girl has been helping geeks from around the world find love. She writes amazing online dating profiles for her fellow geeks and guides them through the perilous waters of the dating scene and out the other side. She's totally proud to report that she's even caused a couple geek weddings! She lives in Maryland with DaveTheGame, her adorable cats, Mr. Peanut & Don Juan, and Titania, Queen of the Cocker Spaniels. (Email e, or follow @geeksdreamgirl on Twitter.)

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