Comments on: Poll & Comment Fest: Why’d You Quit Online Dating?

By: Gwarh

Gwarh — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 17:44:46 +0000

I’ve tried a variety of datings sites over the years. And I swear, every time I find a Red Head Gal Gamer (my perfect match if I’m going for gold) they are always 10 years younger than me. And well I’m 38 now (slide the scale back for earlier hits online).

Anyhow, it is a very rare woman who will date someone 10 years older than themselves, least if their a Gamer Geek. I’ve had non gamer geek gals who were 10 years younger than me email me, but my goal isn’t a girl who is 10 years younger. It’s to meet a Geek Girl.

Maybe the younger generation of Women are just more open and ok with being Geeks, so their happy to advertise it in their profiles. And women my age or older still see Geek/Nerdisim as a stigma. Their could be Older Geek Girls but they are in stealth mode.

The problem is if they don’t wave the Geek flag, how am I supposed to find them?

P.S. this may sound shallow but one wants what one wants. I’ll sacrifice allot of my “must haves” from my perfect woman list if they are a Geek. Things that I am much fussier with if a Non Geek Woman msg’s me. I’m basically that desperate to meet someone who shares the same interests as me. I’ve met some really nice women, but that “spark” for me is her Inner-Geek. And if she doesn’t have that… Course being that way that leads to yet another Friday night alone with my Players Handbook and Dr.Who DVD’s

When do you comprimse. Is aiming for a Geek setting the bar to High. I am starting to belive it is so rare to find a Partner who is also your best friend, that it is silly to keep searching for both in one Woman. I am very likely missing out on allot of great companionship by doing so.

By: DimitriX

DimitriX — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 18:38:35 +0000

I hate dating in general. Online dating has translated into rejection on a scale of mass production. I can send out a dozen intro e-mails (because no one ever writes to me) and get nothing back. So, all I have to show for it is a bill from match.com and the profiles of a bunch of people that I think would be a perfect match for me and I for them. After a while, that level of frustration and humiliation just gets too much and I have to give up.

By: e

Thu, 14 Aug 2008 19:35:07 +0000

@ justaguy – that happens to more people than you might think. That’s why I’m not too big on matching services like eharmony. There’s more to love than an algorithm. ;p

By: justaguy

justaguy — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 13:26:13 +0000

I’m still bemused that I broke e-harmony’s matching algorithm… back a few years when I was looking at hese things I tried to sign up for them, spent the inordinately long amount of time filling out their survey only to be told “Congratulations, you’re part of the tiny percentage of people that we can not help! Sorry, go away.” Okay, I don’t think the message was that blatantly rude but same gist.

justaguys last blog post..Gamelog, Session 5

By: RandomRedMage

RandomRedMage — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 23:33:16 +0000

Vader, Open relationships are actually quite common these days, and a lot of those dating sites have open couples looking for others. Just a different Lifestyle.

By: e

Mon, 11 Aug 2008 18:49:39 +0000

@ Vader – Some folks just live that lifestyle. There are actually dating sites for just those kinds of relationships, too.

By: Vader

Vader — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 06:41:15 +0000

Asmor, I’m curious why you’re opening your relationship, (and what do you mean by playing) if you’re already with the woman of your dreams? Why face the frustrations of dating sites at all?

By: RandomRedMage

RandomRedMage — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 16:52:54 +0000

Well, Online dating can be somewhat fun, but its seriously hit or miss. And I wiff more than grand slam. Also I never really cared to setup a profile on dating sites. 95% of messages I received when joining one date sight that looked ok were pornographic advertisements for web cam sites. I don’t much care for that. Hell, most of the messages I get on ‘MySpace’ Are Porn too. That’s probably the biggest reason for me to just quit the whole ‘Internet Dating’ scene.

As well I find it a lot easier to just meet people during your own time when your doing the things you enjoy. I myself am an avid Online Role Player, not talking about MMORPGS, but just finding people online and Role Playing, complete systemless fun. You meet a lot of great people that way. Unfortunately meeting people this way can lead to false ideas. As you tend to think you know more about them than you actually do. Same is true for any Online situation though.

Myself- I just gave up on the Online dating scene a few years back, but I still openly look for new friends all the time. And one such friend I met a long time ago Over an RP-based Web Chat site that I have long since forgotten the URL to, and I Have grown extremely fond of one another, and later on this year or early to mid next year. We plan on finally meeting up. (Several years in the making)

My myspace is in my “Website” link if anyone cares. Anyway have a good one peoples.

By: e

Wed, 06 Aug 2008 05:08:25 +0000

@R – The age range will vary depending on the city, but yes, I think on the whole, their clientele is generally 25+ (the age where most people have at least some fun money).

By: R.

R. — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 03:25:12 +0000

Ditto to Alan’s complaints about Match.com. Enticing paying members by showing them people that probably won’t fork over the money to read a message is a bit shady in my book. But that’s not the main reason I quit.

Match.com seems to be targeted at an older (not old, just older than me, so please don’t take offense) segment of the population, which leaves younger people with very few options. While there were a few people my own age or thereabouts (I’m 22), the bulk of the user population begins at age 27 and from every profile I searched, none of them were looking to date younger guys.