Work, and Other Life-Threatening Activities
I’ve been on a minor blogging hiatus for the second half of August as my day job starts up again. My “vacation” from blogging has made me think about something, though:
Do you ever take a vacation from online dating?
Is there a point where you say to yourself, “My life is too crazy right now, let me just hide my profile“?
Or do you just let things slide for a month or so while keeping the profile active?
Taking A Break - The Cons
- You’re taking yourself off the market. You may miss “the one”!
- No dates, at least from your online dating profile.
- Sometimes you need a date to keep your sanity when things get crazy.
- If you’re paying for the service - it’s a waste of money to hide your profile!
Taking A Break - The Pros
- If you’re too busy with work (or other life-threatening activities), you’re probably too busy to be in the right frame of mind for starting a relationship.
- It’s good to take something off your plate once in a while so you have the energy to regroup and focus on your goals.
- It’s good to step away for a while and come back with a fresh set of eyes. You may come back with a different attitude that enables you to see something different in a profile you’d once skimmed over… or she may have freshened up her profile or posted a different picture, causing you to give her a second glance!
What do you think? Is it better to pull yourself out of the game 100% if your life is hectic or better to check into your profile sporadically?
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Tough question lass… Tough question… To each their own. I can’t understand women as it is. I went on two dates with a lass and didn’t hear back from her in over a week… I thought she bailed, so I rewrote my profile and kindled some interest with another date. Now I have a date with the other woman. Then last night the old date calls and still wishes to pursue something. Personally, I would rather not be dating more than one woman at the same time. But I kind of botched this one. Very surreal.
Did this answer question? I doubt it. But maybe it is good to pull the profile out once in a while until you achieve stability.
But it’s different with guys on the online dating scene. Since we are expected to pursue each date, its easier for us to pull our profiles out of the mix. We don’t necessarily have to worry about missing emails of potential propositions. We may miss a wink here or there but must of those damn things are from women who are sheisters or who live in freaking Texas who you’re never going to see anyway (unless you happen to have significant income and freedom to fly around to date… Yeeeahh.. Right).
You know I’ve done this - even left the profile “hidden” for … well, I’ve been with this one 2 years? I just checked, my match account still works!
Jos last blog post..::needs more money::
@ green - I do need to tackle the touchy subject of dating multiple people at some point. Thanks for reminding me!
@ Jo - Well, to be fair, you were dating people during those 2 years. ;p
Not like, LOTS of people … it’s been MOSTLY one girl for two years!
Also: what’s up with the sleepy cog icon??
Jos last blog post..paul newman’s last laps
@ Jo - MOSTLY one girl… heheehe….
The creepy cog icon is a Wavatar. Should you want a custom avatar of your own choosing, you need to register at Gravatar.com. Then your own avatar will show up on all blogs that support Gravatars.
I don’t think I’ve ever hidden my profile. Maybe because it draws so little traffic that it was never an issue even when I was dating.
Ozs last blog post..3.9?
@ Oz - Do you need a hug? That’s the saddest thing I’ve read all morning (it’s 8:22 am).
My profile leaves me with a pretty limited audience. Between gamer geek and pagan that whittles down my prospects. Add to that being middle-aged and overweight, my profile didn’t have a lot going for it. Even though I’ve lost a lot of that weight, I think the first two (geek and pagan) remain big limiters… but I think it’s better to have that upfront than to get a hit only to have her find out later.
Ozs last blog post..3.9?
@ Oz - Depends what flavor of pagan you are, I suppose. I never had issues finding dates when I was actively practicing.
My tribe tends to be rather insular. While that has kept us pretty drama free over the 8 years we’ve been practicing together, it limits our (read my) exposure to outsiders. I’m sure if we were more open it would increase my prospects, but I’ve seen too many blow-ups in the local community to advocate it. My tribe > my love life. Especially since I’m the druid.
Ozs last blog post..3.9?