Comments on: Don’t Drink and Date – Okay, but don’t drink MUCH.

By: Jo

Jo — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 00:49:46 +0000

OK, so I went out drinking and dancing and weaseled my way into a group of 6 women (various ages) and “settled” on dancing and joking with 2 in particular. I drank too much (like, crazy “I dare you.” too much) and HEADBUTTED LAURA IN THE FACE.

Lesson learned? Hardly – I got their numbers.

Jo´s last blog post..festivals of speed – orlando

By: e’s soapbox: Am I Peddling Lies and Deception?

e’s soapbox: Am I Peddling Lies and Deception? — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 04:03:20 +0000

[...] or interesting that I want to address it in a full post. This is such a case. On the thread, Don’t Drink and Date, visitor Greyface had this [...]

By: e

Thu, 18 Sep 2008 23:01:55 +0000

@ Greyface – I’ll address this in a full post. It’ll post just after midnight EST.

By: Greyface

Greyface — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 20:48:21 +0000

Unless she’s reading the advice on your website as well, and hiding her normal way of doing things in hopes she can reveal the true ‘her’ after the man has fallen in love.

I don’t understand this dance of mutual deception, wherein you advise people to edit themselves in a profile so as to appear more attractive to prospective dates. That path only leads to false expectations. There are plenty of women out there who are comfortable with the ubergeek man. I happen to be one of them, and the man I met on OkCupid didn’t edit his profile to make himself more date friendly.

The inherent problem is that you’re telling men to change themselves for the women they’re trying to meet, without acknowledging that the woman who will reject a man for his interests is probably not the ideal mate for said man.

Are the men following your advice being true to themselves, or are they forgetting that they aren’t the cookie cutter man, and should be looking for a woman who respects, loves, and eagerly embraces their differences?

By: e

Sun, 14 Sep 2008 15:54:59 +0000

@ Jo – I think that if she’s that kind of girl, she’ll launch into those stories regardless.

By: Jo

Jo — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 15:45:26 +0000

All good reasons, but after reading this I'm probably *more* likely to order a beer or two on a first date, if only to see how the girl handles alcohol early on. If she's going to be telling me a bunch of crazy party stories and slamming down tequila shots in between pitchers of beer, well ... I'd like to see that red flag early on, you know? Jos last blog post..six wheels of terror

By: e

Sat, 13 Sep 2008 19:41:27 +0000

@ Oz – It’s a good rule of thumb.

By: Oz

Oz — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 18:33:13 +0000

If you are even considering ordering an adult beverage, let her order first and take that cue. If she orders a beer, then you're okay to order one as well, but if she opts for something non-alcoholic then do likewise. Ozs last blog post..d20UTH - Death Penalties