Geek's Dream Girl
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Love, e. (not a poet and she knows it!)
About eSince 2008, E. Foley of Geek’s Dream Girl has been helping geeks from around the world find love. She writes amazing online dating profiles for her fellow geeks and guides them through the perilous waters of the dating scene and out the other side. She's totally proud to report that she's even caused a couple geek weddings! By day, she is the Copywriter at ThinkGeek, where her greatest challenges are coming up with enough Star Wars jokes that only reference the good movies and remembering which supers are Somethingman, Something Man, or Something-man. She lives in Maryland with DaveTheGame, her adorable cats, Mr. Peanut & Don Juan, and Titania, Queen of the Cocker Spaniels. (Email e, or follow @geeksdreamgirl on Twitter.)
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…how about attraction in the workplace?
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@ Jo – About…?
How about what to do AFTER you’ve gotten that ball rolling and meeting the girl?
This is going to be long for a comment, but I failed in trying to say it succinctly.
I’m wondering if you have any advice on this situation:
Boy meets girl, and they hit it off famously. Girl is really interested in Boy, to which Boy is unaware. Girl moves away, and her goodbye letter finally leads Boy to understand. Thirteen years later, Boy finds Girl on internet. In that time, Boy has only slightly improved his romantic ineptitude, and is flumoxed on how to proceed.
Basically, I’m curious as to how you would suggest someone rekindle online a missed opportunity in real life.
Okay, maybe I could put it succinctly.
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I haven’t started online dating yet, but I’m strongly considering it. I’ve been kinda hoping that you’d put up something on this subject before I got around to registering, but since you asked…
I’d like to see “What’s in a name?”
If these work like every other online community, you have to pick a name and then you’re stuck with it. It also becomes one of the first things that others see. How much does that affect people’s perception? I’m sure you’d get different responses with names like LuvRboy, Slow_Dancer, ThickBlack, and Dave3879627. But how important is the name anyway, and how should you select one that will help attract the right sort of attention?
I’d like to see more about what you can do on Match.com after you’ve created a “search the whole country for an ideal girl” search. It’s been a good start, but most of Match’s search parameters are only “skin deep”, so to speak. Do you have any great strategies for narrowing the field even further, and separating the geeks from the chaff?
@caesar_agumbus
I’m going to assume this is you, but if not just substitute “you” for the boy’s name.
I think the basic advice for that is to just go for it. You even have a couple advantages over most online daters.
For one thing, you already know each other, so you get to bypass a lot of the “what’s he/she really like and do I really want to try this” part.
For another, she already fell for you once, so assuming you haven’t changed in extreme ways, you have a good chance that she will still like the parts of you that she used to. (Though, admittedly, her tastes may have changed in 13 years, there’s no way to know unless you try.)
Basically, talk to her, and see if she’d like to give it a shot, despite your previous obliviousness. (That obliviousness is part of what she fell for, too, so don’t worry too much if you’re still a little oblivious.)
If she wants to, then it’s up to you from that point on. But the start is really just going for it.
But that’s just me, and I’m not a pro like e.
Note: Research whether she’s married or involved first. If she is, then come back to her as a friend instead. If she isn’t, or you can’t tell, then it never hurts to ask.
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E.,
I just think “more”, even if you’re revisiting articles – like, there was a great 1st date article, why not write localized ideas? First date Miami, First date Chicago, etc.
The dream girls was a good idea, why not revisit that in the same way you do the “personal ad makeover”? “E finds your dreamgirl” could be another monthly contest/service.
In other words: it’s great, just keep doing it!
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@ Everybody – Thanks for the comments, keep ‘em coming! I’m making a list for future article ideas.
In some of your early articles, you mention doing a version of some of your articles aimed at girls as well. Now, I’m not female, but could be worth having another look at.
Could maybe do something about initiating small talk (something I always find a killer).
Or follow your article today with something about how to flirt with strangers in a way that isn’t horrifically sleazy.
I would agree with the above comments about looking at good dates. Could maybe hook you up with a couple of good date recipes for an article if you wanted.
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More girl articles is always a good idea! (coming from a geek girl)
What if there was an article about talking to said dream girl/guy after you have found her?
Also, you refer in your makeovers about always staying positive. Can we have an article for the jaded on being more positive in general?
e, I love reading up on your site! I’m so glad a guy friend of mine passed on your link!
Okay everybody! I’ve saved each of your good ideas as the title of a post in my drafts folder. I’ll be working on them (and any other side trips I make along the way!) as I go along my merry way this coming month.
If you think of anything else, feel free to add it to the list here!