You’ve made your New Year’s resolutions – you’re going to lose 20 pounds, stop bringing your work home, read a new book every month, spend more time with your family.
Which you belongs in your online dating profile? The 2008 you or the 2009 you?
Know What Makes You… You!
There are things about you that are constants and haven’t changed with the coming of the new year. These are your priorities for your profile. For example, I love going out to eat with friends, snuggling on the couch with my cats watching NCIS reruns, and scouring the internet for whatever topic is piquing my interest at the moment.
If you need help with this list, ask your friends and family. Too embarrassed to grill them? I won’t judge your comic book collection or your obsession with Trinity from The Matrix.
Leave Out The Negative
Just like writing a cover letter or resume, leave out any negative references. Are you “in shape – ROUND is a shape!“? Don’t mention your battle with the bulge and how you really wish more women liked teddy bear shaped guys.
Just lost your job? Bummed about the economy? Leave it out. Focus on what makes your life great and interesting and attractive to other people.
Identify Your Goals And Write About Them
If you have a New Year’s goal that you’re working towards achieving, by all means, write about it. Women love a man with a plan, even if that plan is as simple as taking your dog for longer walks this year.
Don’t Call A Spoon A Shovel
Talk about your goals, but don’t make it out like you ARE something you’re not (yet). Maybe your resolution is to hit the gym three days a week. You’re going to be… what is the male equivalent of a gym bunny? (Apparently, gym bunny!)
Either way, there is a BIG DIFFERENCE between stating your goal and calling a spoon a shovel.
Goal: “My plans for the new year involve using my gym membership – I’ve blocked out an hour after work each day and have even bought some new sneakers!”
Spoon/Shovel: “I go to the gym after work every day and enjoy staying physically fit.”
While the second statement may eventually be true, it’s not true right now.
Stick with honesty as your best policy for the new year. Know who you are and work on who you want to be. Be honest about both and you’ll have success in your hunt for the perfect geek girl.
Happy dating, geek friends.