What do you do if you are looking for love and hold a set of beliefs that aren’t so popular?
We at GDG and Online Dating Profiler are equal opportunity providers and believe that everyone deserves love. I trust that my usual crowd will be respectful, but please know that I will delete any comments from this post that stir up drama between the faiths.
So what is your friendly neighborhood Atheist, Agnostic, Buddhist, Pagan, Wiccan, or (insert your flavor here) to do when looking for a compatible mate online?
Custom Searches Are Your Best Friend
Skip the usual search functionality and set up your own Custom Searches. I have a detailed series on Match.com’s custom searches, but most sites will let you do something similar.
Make a custom search for people who fit your religious beliefs as well as any other major qualities (age, distance, etc). Sometimes the “mutual match” features will show people who are not your religious match just because they match you in other areas. This is why custom searches are key.
What To Do If Your Matches Are Few
- Expand your search radius.
If there aren’t enough Buddhists in your hometown, stretch your search out by 20-50 miles and see if that picks up more hits.
- Loosen up your other requirements.
Sure, you might not think you’d be interested in someone so young/old, but you might get lucky and find someone really mature/young for her age! Rob the cradle (legally!) or get yourself a cougar. You might like it.
- Look for open-minded Christians.
There are plenty of people in the world who are Christian and open-minded about other religions. Don’t be afraid to email someone just because they list “Christian” as their religion. They may just be the cool open-minded variety. If she emails back with the fire and brimstone and tries to save your soul, just click block and move on. No biggie.
- Seek other religious minorities.
You can have thought-provoking conversations about the nature of the universe and be happy agreeing to disagree. It might not be your ideal, but who knows, you just might like it!
An’ It Harm None… Do What Ye Will
Be respectful and kind to the people of the online dating world. We are all just searching for that perfection that is Love. That’s the same no matter what name you call God.
Happy dating, Geek Friends.