Comments on: Why Scoping Out Your Online Dating Competition Is A Bad Idea

By: e

Thu, 04 Jun 2009 15:57:32 +0000

@ messerole – Good for you!! I’m so glad to hear you found someone.

By: messerole

messerole — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 14:36:09 +0000

Ha! Well, I got a girlfriend now, so in a good way, I do find myself frequenting the whole ‘dating advice’ circuit a bit less.

By: Why Scoping Out Your Online Dating Competition Is A Good Idea

Why Scoping Out Your Online Dating Competition Is A Good Idea — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 13:32:31 +0000

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By: e

Wed, 03 Jun 2009 19:42:31 +0000

@messerole – Good to see you back! Where were ya all of May? You make such good points!

By: messerole

messerole — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 16:41:24 +0000

Let me tell you, I’ve had more than my fair share of crazy, and the adage tends to be true. Beautiful people tend to be crazy. See the “Bubble” episode of 30 rock. Their appearance lets them get away with things.

But quite honestly, when it comes to males and online dating sites, if you have a job you’re probably a great deal more eligible than at least 75% of the rest of the population.

The thing of about..Chip N Dales is that they are few and far between, and let’s get logistical here, they can only be dating so many girls at once.

By: e

Wed, 03 Jun 2009 15:54:14 +0000

@Matt – LOL about the “dump truck full of crazy!” I know several people like that. Looks great on the outside, but when you open the hood… oh good gods!

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 15:17:44 +0000

Based on what I’ve seen, those who are easy on the eyes who are advertising on a dating site are the same ones that will call you at three in the morning to talk about how hot you look right now… and you’re in bed alone.

I’m willing to bet that there are exceptions, but if they say they’re awesome entrepreneurs who make six figures and have a fantastic body then either A: they’re grossly overestimating their own abilities (i.e. lying their ass off) or B: there’s a dump truck full of crazy that they’re not letting you know about.

My opinion, of course.

By: e

Tue, 02 Jun 2009 19:56:24 +0000

@ Matt – That second part will be on Thursday’s post!

As far as the Chips and Dales, it really depends on your self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, you’re going to see most of the people “like” you as better than you in some way. I remember doing it myself in my early days doing online dating… checking the list of girls who were “like” me and figuring I was doomed because they were all so much prettier than me. When your self-esteem is low, you see what you want to see, which is more stuff to reinforce your low self-esteem.

By: Matt Savage

Matt Savage — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 18:55:12 +0000

Though they do exist, I think for the most part, the Chips and Dales you are describing are few and far between on most sites. My thoughts are that you are more likely to learn what not to do by checking out your competition as I think 95% of males really don't have a clue of the online attraction process. Matt Savage´s last blog post..Social Proof in Online Dating Profiles