Comments on: A Letter to E: “Your website, your service, it offends me.”

By: Is Getting Your Dating Profile Written For You Unethical? : Geek's Dream Girl

Is Getting Your Dating Profile Written For You Unethical? : Geek's Dream Girl — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 14:34:28 +0000

[...] always argued that hiring someone to help spiff up your profile is no different than hiring a professional to cut your hair. After all, you could do it yourself, but you might not like the end result. Since online dating is [...]

By: e

Mon, 02 Nov 2009 03:30:25 +0000

@Ryan – I’ll be here when you need me!

The way I figure it, hate mail just gives me feedback on things I could clarify for all of my potential customers. It’s an opportunity to become better at what I do and serve more people. So oddly enough, it’s something to be thankful for!

By: Ryan

Ryan — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 03:23:38 +0000

Hmm, nice responses. Glad to see a site take hate-mail so well. May use your site in the future, and, this leans me more towards the ‘yes’ category.

By: Scott Hedrick

Scott Hedrick — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 23:43:10 +0000

If this site had been available before I met my wife, I would have used it. I met my wife on AOL. I’ve met several women in person that I first found online. My brother made it clear that he would date “any of those skanky women online because if they were any good they could find a man on their own.” He got married a few weeks before I did to a gal he met online. We’ve both been married now for over twelve years.

This is a good and valuable service, when used properly.

By: messerole

messerole — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 19:27:50 +0000

I have actually had the reverse experience, Online dating has pretty much been my most successful dating..err, phase?

It gave me the confidence I needed to meet total strangers, and still is the most convenient way to meet girls outside of my ‘circle of incest’

I met my current GF on there, and she’s someone I’d normally never even consider dating. E’s website (among many others) gives a lot of practical advise that you can use to your advantage and turn online dating from a dud-experience to a truely useful resource.

By: Kitanya

Kitanya — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 21:23:28 +0000

I found this post to be amazingly uplifting. I have always been skeptical of online dating site, but you have put it in a light that makes me understand completely. Thanks for the heartwarming, and I hope you see many successes as you move forward. ^^ .-= Kitanya´s last blog ..Still Falling Apart =-.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 06:38:27 +0000

“Or they go balls to the wall for a month and write tons of emails. …Then they finally quit, blaming the system for failing them, when in reality, they failed to use the system to their benefit.”

That description is similar to what happened to me when I first tried online dating using e-Harmony three years ago. I think something to keep in mind is that, speaking from my experience, people like these are willing to work hard to find the right match, but some don’t fully understand how online dating really works in practice and unwittingly go about it under misguided assumptions and expectations. They don’t use the resources to their full benefit or seek help on how to do so because they don’t know they’re doing it “wrong” in the first place. It seem to me that most online dating sites explain the mechanics of how the site works, and may even have subsites that offer advice on relationships or dating once you’ve gotten it to that point, but do a poor job of explaining the strategies for how to use the dating tools most effectively. I think that it would benefit a lot of people if there were an “online dating tutorial” that newcomers to online dating would know to review that covers what to expect and basic strategies such as only sending only very brief messages when you are first introducing yourself to someone.

By: Graham

Graham — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:51:44 +0000

Geek’s Dream Girl is like the photographer you hire to take pictures of your house when you want to sell it.

It still may not sell. But the pretty picture makes it more likely to.

By: Paul Sparks

Paul Sparks — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:20:50 +0000

Were to begin, as one man who as had crappy luck with the whole online dating scene, what e says make sense, I have to admit my profile’s are probably not the best in the market. As for the sender, cudo’s for writing, although not cudo’s due to the fact that while you may not of had any luck, and I have not had any luck, it does happen, I have a friend of the family who in her late 50′s found someone on a dating site after her husband died. They are happily married. I applaud e for her service especially since us geek’s while me may be a bit more intelligent, or maybe not as socially adept as some. It gives us a chance to get our profile seen and gives us a bit better of a chance out there. As with everything, that is why there are disclaimers on all sorts of weight loss products, results may vary per individual, same with medicine, just because one person had a side effect doesn’t mean everyone will. Good job e keep up the good work, and when I have the funds available I will definitely take up your services.

By: Nicholas

Nicholas — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:05:52 +0000

That's the most downbeat hate mail I've ever seen. It's more of a malaise mail. It makes me pity the writer. .-= Nicholas´s last blog ..Nerd Watching: Ejecting Jerks =-.