Comments on: Dear Anon-O-Box: Should Fat Date Fat?

By: When Persistence Isn’t Enough: Steps to Take When You’re Tired of Rejection : Geek's Dream Girl

Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:08:50 +0000

[...] being said, don’t put off your dating life until you’ve lost weight / gotten a better job / moved out of mom’s house, etc. Life is NOW, so live it no matter [...]

By: Lilac

Lilac — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 04:48:40 +0000

My twin sister is quite curvy, but not overweight, and when I told her about this article (thing? I don’t really know the word for it, sorry) she laughed. Her fiance is 360lbs, and she says quite simply that she “doesn’t care.” She’s 130lbs (so not tiny, but far from obese) and had a thing for him from day one. He’s not particularly confident, but has a great sense of humor, is always willing to listen to someone’s problems, and gives appropriate advice. However, his lack of confidence nearly made him drop the ball when a friend of ours asked him why he hadn’t already asked her out when it was so-very-clear that he was quite smitten with her. Even when he was informed that yes, she was quite smitten with him too, he nearly told her that it wouldn’t work because he was so terrified she would turn him down in the end.

If a girl is only interested with a guy for his looks, psh. She probably won’t get very far. All you big guys out there, don’t fret so much about your weight! The great girls don’t care if you need to shed a few pounds if you’re loyal, funny, and generally have a good personality.

By: Sandrinnad

Sandrinnad — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 17:59:26 +0000

also – a lot of girls like a cuddly guy….and a bigger guy has a much better cuddle factor

By: e

Fri, 07 Aug 2009 19:14:31 +0000

@ messerole – Thanks for bringing up the point that slipped my mind. It is true – bigger guys make girls look smaller, and it’s nice to feel small (especially when you’re not so small).

By: messerole

messerole — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:11:14 +0000

Well, to answer in short, yes, overweight girls DO look for overweight guys. The idea is that a larger partner will make her look thinner.

That said, this works even better if a girl is a so-called ‘skinny’ type. So generally, shallowly as a man, you don’t really have to worry about your weight being an obstacle to your romantic life. I have a friend who weighs 300+ lbs. (obese) who manages to successfully court women.

Don’t give up. Confidence and personality is key to attracting women. If you want to work on superficial aspects, make more money. As a man, appearance matters less for you.

There are girls who are of course, the exception, but mathematically you’ll probably find more success with the above advice.