Comments on: Ask Y: Experimenting In Non-Traditional Relationships

By: Matt Savage

Matt Savage — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 19:15:23 +0000

It seems like I’ve been reading a lot about polyamorous relationships lately, seems to be some kind of a trend. It also seems like people are re-thinking the whole traditional marriage route. I see this a lot in the seduction community with guys who are wanting and capable of having multiple long term relationships. It seems like it’s a recipe for trouble, but then again marriage isn’t all the easy either. Certainly an interesting topic and I think we’ll see a lot more social debate on “relationship” issues in the coming decade.
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By: y

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 17:20:09 +0000

I’m glad I was able to amuse you! I’m a generally funny girl and it’s nice to bring some laughter into someone else’s world!

I won’t say the real reason I referenced him as Mr Big, because a girl has got to keep some secrets afterall! I will, however, mention that I have met men and women, from all walks of life in the lifestyle. I have heard that the majority of “swingers” aka polyamorous relationships, are truckers but I find that to be somewhat misleading as well.

Although I’m unsure of the source of such statistics, I am inclined to say it is probably quite outdated, if not entirely biased. Years ago, before the use of the internet became widely popular and available, “hooking up” was a bit more complicated. People had to post ads in special classifieds, etc and await exchanges via snail mail or telephone. Needless to say, far more time consuming and, in my opinion, definitely more risky! It is definitely believable that only those who were unable to afford a “safer and speedier” encounter would be part of the lifestyle.

Now, there are websites upon websites specifically dedicated to people who are just looking to have a little bit of fun to couples that are looking to add a long term playmate. Then, there are clubs in every city and state, carefully designed to allow everyone to fulfill their fantasies in a safe and undisclosed manner. Instant Messengers and e-mail correspondences makes it easier to get in touch with complete strangers than ever before. I have met doctors, lawyers, very wealthy entrepreneurs, college professors, truck drivers, accountants, restaurant shift managers or even stay-at-home moms/dads.

A major fact that people tend to not realize is that no one wants trouble, no one wants drama, no one wants to bring anything into their lives to further complicate it. For swingers, the lifestyle is almost like a hobby or a vacation getaway. It’s not for every day and its sole purpose is to kick back, relax and do something you enjoy with people who feel the same way. With that in mind, every single club, website, public or private event is carefully secured and guarded against anything and anyone who is not of the same mentality. So in the end, it’s not a matter of vocation that can be measured but a sense of understanding and open-mindedness from people with all sorts of vocational backgrounds.
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By: Ryven Cedrylle

Ryven Cedrylle — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 04:44:13 +0000

Highly amused that you call your guy “Mr. Big” – not sure if this a Sex and the City reference or.. um, something else, but still. Funny. I also remember reading in my father’s “The Men’s Guide to Sex” by Men’s Health Magazine in the late ’90s that the highest vocational percentage of men in open marriages were actually ordained clergy but I have never been able to verify that claim anywhere else.

By: Hammer

Hammer — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 17:56:24 +0000

One thing that's worth remembering is that open relationships can sound like a great idea on paper, but can also lead to a whole new world of hurt. There is a world of different between the idea and the act. .-= Hammer´s last blog ..RPG Blogger’s Carnival: Going Too Far =-.