Dear Anon-O-Box: Why So Gay, Geek’s Dream Girl?

Dear Anon-O-Box,

How many gay articles do we need? What percent of your audience is gay?

- Too Many Gay Articles

Dear TMGA,

Wow. Well, thank you for voicing your concerns regarding the content of Geek’s Dream Girl’s blog. Allow me to reflect on my reasoning for having so “many gay articles.”

The Beginnings of Geek’s Dream Girl

When I launched Geek’s Dream Girl in February of 2008, my goal was to help geek guys attract the attention of geek girls through totally amazing online dating profiles.

Thus, you’ll notice if you look through our archives that the majority of the dating articles were written for geek men trying to attract geek women. I’ve always said that the site is open to everyone, but I’d rather not play the pronoun game, so I don’t.

It wasn’t that my articles and services weren’t geared to other folks – they are! – it’s just that when starting my business I thought I’d aim for helping re-write the profiles I was already intimately familiar with reading: those of straight, geeky men.

Our Clientele

People say you should do what you love. I love geek men, so I started there. To a great extent, the majority of our clients are still straight geek men.

But we’ve also helped:

  • bisexual men
  • gay men
  • polyamorous straight men
  • polyamorous gay men
  • straight women

No bi or gay girl clients yet (other than in GeekMMM), but we’re eagerly awaiting the day when we can add them to our list of geek loves we’ve helped.

Balancing Things Out

When I was looking to expand the Geek’s Dream Girl staff this past summer, it was my goal to round out the topics we covered. There are aspects of geek culture that J and I aren’t involved with, and we wanted them to have a place here.

I was also interested in stepping up our presence in the gay geek community, because I sometimes get emails asking: “Hey, do you help gay people too? I’d like to hire you, but I wasn’t sure.

Our newest gay writers include D (our comic book geek), and GGG (our gay geek guy, writing about RPGs, LARP, furries, and more).  For a short time, we had Z, but she had to leave us to focus on her university studies.

So Yes, There Are More Gay Articles

You are correct in noticing that there are more gay-themed articles. The good news is this: A lot of their dating advice works for straight people too.

Attraction is attraction.

Love is love.

Passion is passion.

Hot steamy sex is hot steamy sex.

Whether that’s with someone who happens to have the same junk as you do is irrelevant.

With the It Gets Better Project and the recent gay teen suicides in the news, both D and GGG wanted to have their voices heard, to add to the chorus of adults saying, “Hang in there. Your life is worth too much to give up.

And I green-lighted those posts because I want our site to be a place where all types of love are welcome. If you’ve got a problem with that, then we may not be the site for you.

Happy dating, geek friends.

About e

Since 2008, E. Foley of Geek’s Dream Girl has been helping geeks from around the world find love. She writes amazing online dating profiles for her fellow geeks and guides them through the perilous waters of the dating scene and out the other side. She's totally proud to report that she's even caused a couple geek weddings! She lives in Maryland with DaveTheGame, her adorable cats, Mr. Peanut & Don Juan, and Titania, Queen of the Cocker Spaniels. (Email e, or follow @geeksdreamgirl on Twitter.)

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