Dear Anon-O-Box: How Do I Translate “Woman” To English?

Dear Anon-O-Box,

How do I translate “woman”?

Specifically, if I get a polite response to my email that answers all my questions but asks none and seems written not to encourage response do I continue or should I just get a clue?

- No Speakee This Language

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e answers:

Dear NSTL,

The good news: You got a reply! (That’s more than a lot of other guys can say about emails they’ve sent out.)

The bad news: You’re not sure if she’s just being polite.

This is actually a pretty common occurrence. Of course, since we’re dealing with human beings, there’s no 100% accurate answer to your question. Here are some possibilities of what her email means:

  • “Hey! A guy emailed me. I’m going to write back!”
  • “This guy seems nice, but he’s an 8 and I’m a 5.  I’ll reply to his email and see if he continues to be interested in me… best not to get my hopes up.”
  • “This guy seems interesting, but the guy I started talking to yesterday is really cool and might ask me out soon. But hey, I’ll hold this new guy on the back burner just in case.”
  • “I don’t want to be a bitch to this guy, but maybe if I write a short reply he’ll lose interest in me so I don’t have to let him down.”

As you can see, there are many different ways this email could be interpreted. Don’t always hop to the Worst Case Scenario. Unless her email flat-out says thanks, but no thanks, you can take it as a continuation of your conversation.

Reply back and continue a friendly banter. Ask a follow-up question based on the answers she gave you in the first email. Chat a bit more about yourself (things that aren’t in your profile, hopefully maybe related to things she mentioned in her email).

If she doesn’t reply to your second email, then you can assume that first email was merely a polite gesture and move on to greener pastures.

Happy dating, geek friend!

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