You’ll start dating after you lose 20 pounds. Or get your degree. Or stop working so hard. Or once you move into your new place. Or after you’ve gotten a new job.
Here’s why you should kick those excuses to the curb –>
See that picture right there? That needs to be your motto.
New Year, New You?
Everyone starts the new year with aspirations. And we think, if I can just get those things on track first, then I’ll put up a dating profile. If I can just have this one habit cemented in my daily life, then I’ll go join that singles group. If I can just get to the gym every day for a month, then I’ll go to that mixer at church.
Why wait?
The biggest difference between you now and you two months from now is that you’ll be two months older and have two months more experience at being single.
Nobody’s Perfect
I’m certainly not perfect. I’m overweight. I have been overweight for the majority of my adult life. I suffer from depression and have occasionally thought I was “good enough” to go without my meds. (I am very happily back on them and plan to stay that way.) My previous career as a public school teacher left me in temporary poverty every August and with a small mountain of debt.
But I didn’t wait to find love. Neither should you, no matter how imperfect you may be.
Parts of You Are Pretty Awesome
Every time I interview a new client, I have an amazing time. I love learning about new people, “meeting” them via chat and getting to know what’s important to them and how they tick. More than that, I love being able to use my talents to write them a profile that really showcases what makes them pretty awesome.
You are a unique and awesome snowflake. There, I said it. There are things about you that are unlike any other person anyone has ever met. The way you smile, the way you laugh, the way you think, the things you’re great at, and the things you fail at hilariously. You are pretty awesome.
Who are you to deny your awesomeness to the world because of a few imperfections?
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That saying is awesome and totally true! I just had a friend say that they wanted to loose weight so they can date and I thought that was absurd. Who ever we meet will not care if you have lost a few pounds or not. You need to meet someone that can love it all about you. If you gain the extra pounds then you will wonder if they will still be interested. Don’t change before you want to date.
I have to agree with this post. The biggest option we have the inability to take action. Always remember this you don’t know about what tomorrow holds and what only matters is NOW.
Not sure how much I agree with this one.
Let’s face it, if a woman is slender, athletic and toned, etc, does she not have every right to demand that her date look just as good? It is not like she cannot find a guy who has all of your good qualities PLUS looks good. .
In the dating world, physical attractiveness DOES matter. If you are not especially attractive yourself, you can expect that the better looking a woman is, the less interest she will have in you. This is doubly true among geeks.
So you can:
1) Not date until you are thinner (you can work on this) or taller (not gonna happen.) or:
2) Put up your profile anyway and understand that foxes are not in your future. Hopefully you are a smart
enough geek to realize how little this really matters in the long run. The most fun woman I have ever
dated is even more overweight than I am. And we are going out again pretty soon.
Just my humble opinion.
Please ignore/remove my previous post. The last two women who responded to my Match profile
are both slender. Clearly I don’t have a clue about the way women think. But I have had a date with one of them and we are going out again. Viva la difference!