In general, I can’t stand New Year’s Resolutions. I get why people make them – any starting date for any change is arbitrary, so why not do so while you have the support of the people around you? – but I’m personally bad at them. My resolutions tend to be things like losing weight and cutting out soda. Let me tell you, trying to make dramatic eating changes and Lift All the Things while still coming out of a holiday sugar coma is a guaranteed recipe to make me cranky. Oh, and as for soda, I’ve kicked it – for months at a time – probably at least five times now. I always go back. And since it’s a resolution, I tend to take it less seriously.
So we’ve established I’m terrible at the resolution thing. Still, that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t take advantage of those year-end lists and montages and reflect on where I’ve been and what I’d like to work on, in general. Much like GGG, I discovered that when I did, I could separate my goals into “geek” and “non-geek.” But even more than that, I noticed that the things I want to change are not just improvements for the next year. They almost all seem to be linked to my age; shaking off the mentalities of younger versions of myself, or adjusting for the fact that I can’t stay up all night playing video games and bounce back the next day. So what follows are a few things I’d like to work on for the future – because hey, I’m not getting any younger, and that’s not even a bad thing.
I will not buy something just because I loved it when I was 15.
As someone who embraced her geek self early in life (bookworm since I could read), there are, at this point, many passions that bring back fond memories. The X-Files, for example, was a big part of my life for years on end. That being said, it’s not currently an active part of my life, so I don’t need to pick up that probably-terrible novelization from the used bookstore just because it’s the X-Files. I don’t need to buy that metal lunchbox just because I carried metal Sailor Moon lunchboxes as purses through all four years of high school. I’m glad I have those memories, but I don’t need to relive them just because I’m caught up in nostalgia for five minutes. That’s what the internet is for.
I will be more prepared for cons this year.
By that, I mean organizationally, physically, and mentally. I will stay on top of the details and keep track of what I want to see. I will try to get lots of healthy food and sleep in the days leading up to a con, so I have some sort of natural reserve of energy and hopefully be as immune-resistant as possible. I’m an extrovert, so large crowds don’t drain me as much as some, but I have to make sure I remember that I’m there to have fun with great people, and not stress if things do veer off-plan. I know it’s a bit much to expect, but at least it’ll give me something to strive for – because again, physically, I don’t bounce back as easily as I used to from these things.
I will avoid trolls, cred wars and negativity when I can.
There was a time when I was always up for a debate, or even verbal sparring. I’ve opened my big mouth countless times, often to people of authority, and honestly I think I only got away with it because I’m pretty unassuming. But I’m tired of arguing, especially with people who are just trying to ‘test’ me or who think it’s cute to get a rise out of a girl. Neither do I need to chime in on every issue that bothers me if I’m not directly involved. My blood pressure doesn’t need it.
I will try not to buy t-shirts unless they’re absolutely amazing.
I have nothing against fun t-shirts, and don’t necessarily view them as something juvenile. My issue is that I don’t like how I look in them. Every time I see a picture of myself wearing one, whether I was twelve or 22, I want to tell myself to put on something flattering (and brush my hair). I have an issue where I want to divide my clothes into “nice” clothes and “who cares” clothes, and then the “nice” stuff never gets worn.
Plus, whereas before I felt the need to get that pop-culture or cult-entertainment t-shirt because I was amazed that someone cared enough to produce one, nowadays clever shirts are everywhere. If I bought every cute Doctor Who shirt I’ve seen I’d have a closet full of them, so I’ll stick with my original Dalek shirt (because that’s all there was!) and wear my love for the show in my heart (or, on my canvas bag, as it happens). And if I buy an amazing shirt, I’ll try to make sure it actually fits (though I’m not a fan of babydolls. Talk about what I wore in high school).
I will try to meet new people who share current common interests.
It can be harder to make new friends as an adult, whether it’s because our skills are rusty or because we’re not in a pool of peers like we were in school. While I do have friends, both from ages past and recent years, I don’t want to get complacent and stop meeting new people, especially as my life and interests evolve.
Those are just a few points I want to bear in mind for the future. What about you? Have you found yourself readjusting priorities compared to a decade ago, or five years ago? Do you feel you’re the same “kind” of geek you were as a kid?