About e.

Just call me e.

I am a geek.

I’m hard-pressed to say what flavor of geek I am. I’m the Baskin-Robbins of geekdom. Video games, books, music, computers, sci-fi, role-playing, and random fascination with just about everything. I think undying curiosity is what defines a geek; a geek is never satisfied with what she knows. She wants more, better, deeper. Bring on the knowledge – I can never get enough.

I was a bright kid – 99th percentile. I ruined the grading curve for everyone else and was proud of it. Much of my childhood involved stalking the Bookmobile. I preferred books to Barbies, Mario to Maybelline. The majority of my playmates were boys, and as such, I knew why to chase after 1-Up Mushrooms, which Ninja Turtle was which, and why the movie Space Balls was funny. Even though I haven’t used it since the late 80s, I still remember the Konami “Contra Code”.

I’ve seen every episode of TNG (and have a love/hate relationship with Q, and a love/love relationship with Picard). I only got about halfway through DS9. If I could be any Star Trek character, it would be Jadzia Dax. I’ve always been a sucker for freckles (even giant ones that go all the way down!), and she’s got the wisdom of many lifetimes. My ultimate dream is to have my very own holodeck. I mean, have you considered the kind of things you could do with your own holodeck? Astounding.

I can recite at least a half dozen Rules of Acquisition and know the way to a Ferengi’s heart is through his ears. The way to Dr. Who’s heart? Well, I guess the question is, WHICH heart? Contrary to what t-shirts lead you to believe, I don’t remember my first Doctor, because I was too young to care. Lately, I prefer Eccleston for personality, and Tennant for looks. I have a bunch of episodes of Torchwood on my DVR, but haven’t found a good block of time to watch them, despite the fact that I would gladly run away with Captain Jack Harkness.

I suck at most video games, but I’m pretty decent at Wii Bowling and have been working my way through Zelda: Twilight Princess at a snail’s pace. I lost about 3 years of my life to my wood elf bard on EverCrack and another 2 years to a night elf rogue on WoW (and have recently relapsed and am back on the WoWcrack). I was in high-level raiding guilds on both games – not simultaneously, thank God! – and while I enjoyed the people, I wasn’t too keen on all the dying. Rogues and bards die often because nobody cares about keeping us alive. Sad but true.

On Friday nights when I lived in Orlando, I was a drow scout named Mar’Kessa, exploring the jungles of Xen’drik with a gnoll, a naga, and a halfling.   Sometimes I was a Noble companion named Tosca, exploring the Arbor system in Star Wars Saga Edition.  Many thanks go to my Orlando gaming group who were gracious enough to take in a total n00b to the world of d20 and are holding my hand through all my stupid questions.  Thanks to my Charlotte group for starting a whole new campaign night just so I could play!

I’ve been playing the violin since I was 7 years old and its larger cousin, the viola, since 18. My high school didn’t offer orchestra, so I was a choir geek by day, and regional youth orchestra geek on Sundays. For those who think that Band Geek is the ultimate in music geek, I beg to differ. Orch Dorks are much worse. Much, much worse. I’m also a Music Theory Geek – which is cool in theory (ha!), but in reality ruins your ability to listen to 90% of the music in the world without wanting to pull out your hair.

I drive a stick and love it. Can someone enlighten me as to why men think that is sexy? I’d happily blow my entire paycheck at Barnes & Noble or Borders if I had no bills to pay. I still curse Fox for canceling Firefly. Inara is my hero. If I could handle the blood and guts, I’d be a forensic scientist like Grissom on CSI. Science, I can handle. I am NOT a math geek. Math and I got along just fine until they started adding letters in with the numbers.

At my wonderful alma mater, I was a double major in Music and Creative Writing. When pressed to make a decision between my two passions in life, I could not. Thus, I did both.  I spent nearly 7 years in the public education system before become fed up with things that would never change.  Currently, I work as a freelance writer specializing in blog articles, web content, proofreading, and editing.

As far as this site… I want to help geeks find love. Let’s face it, with all the time we spend dusting our collection of Star Wars figures, re-re-re-watching Office Space, preparing for our D&D campaigns, practicing our instruments or our Wii-mote skills, and generally being 1337, we can be a little socially inept at times. I hope that this blog can be a place where I can offer my services to geeks everywhere.

I am a self-proclaimed expert in the world of online dating. I love geeks, and where best to hunt the geek than in his natural environment? I also know that most geeks have problems in the area of online dating, and I’d like to help them! Let my experience and my profile writing skills help you find love!

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About j.

Hi!  I’m J. I’m the new Assistant Dream Girl and I couldn’t be more excited.

I am a second-generation geek.  Most of my loves can be traced back to my mother, though she’s never applied a label to herself.  The other day I explained to her that most houses weren’t full of books like the Foundation trilogy, and most children don’t spend quality time with their parents curled up watching Alien Nation or The X-Files or Them.

Now, she reluctantly agrees:  she’s a geek.

It’s just that for us, being a geek is normal.  I grew up with only sisters, so I never had any predisposed gender notions regarding things like video games or sf  (I had a professor once who was so intimidating, she broke me of ever calling it sci-fi).  It was perfectly acceptable to use one’s ColecoVision controller as a pretend car phone, or to reenact scenes from Star Wars or Beauty and the Beast with Barbies.  And I can’t be the only one who thought of the first Rainbow Brite movie, The Beginning of Rainbowland, when I saw my first anime.

As I got older, I divided my time between my two loves, books and music.  I have a degree in music, and I play French horn.  I’ve been a band geek, an orch dork, and a college DJ.  When I say I like just about every genre of music, I really, really mean it.  After not playing for awhile, I recently joined an orchestra, because I realized my life just isn’t complete without it.  And it’s just not Christmas unless you’ve been playing the darn music since October!

As important as music is, my main love has always been reading (and writing, to a lesser extent).  My favorite author is Julian May, but I love me some Asimov, Heinlein, Clarke – when I say I like the harder stuff, I mean sf, not alcohol.

My TV tastes, on the other hand, are decidedly soft.  Red Dwarf and the Taken miniseries are long-term loves.  My favorite Doctor changes on any given day, but I’m currently torn between David Tennant and Patrick Troughton (and I’m one of those rabidly awaiting Steven Moffat’s turn at the helm as head writer and executive producer, and wishing Neil Gaiman would write an episode).

I’m an unabashed lover of the original NES – I still have mine, and it’s functional.  I’ve owned just about every console since then, but the NES and Sega Game Gear hold very special places in my heart.  I first heard that I would be “the perfect girlfriend” when I demonstrated how to beat the first Mario game in ten minutes to my AP Physics class.  I did my time at the arcades; my heart shriveled a little the day they got rid of the Beatmania machine.  I’ve always been a pinball junkie and I’ll challenge anyone at air hockey.

At home, I play every instrument on Rock Band on Expert.  In the past few years I’ve spent an awful lot of time playing WoW.  I tell other people, and myself, that I’m a casual gamer, but I’m not fooling anyone.

I was barely a teenager when I first recognized the plight of the geek.  While chatting on irc, I grew quite upset when no one would believe I was a girl – they were sure someone who liked Nine Inch Nails and knew how to play Magic: the Gathering was more likely to be a 40-year-old man posing as jailbait.  Geek girls are not unicorns!  There are plenty of us out there.  Why didn’t most guys understand that?

After a few years, it became more clear.  While I might be comfortable hanging with guys, neither social awkwardness nor shyness come with a gender bias.  Many of my geek girl friends have trouble meeting guys, even ones with common interests.  I hear the same stuff from male and female geeks alike, and ultimately, I want them to find love, like I have.

On the internet, we get so hung up on lists and memes and jokes that don’t translate well to the printed word;  I want to help cut through the minutiae and let others see you for the awesome person you are!  Online dating profiles are a perfect place for a great first impression.  Geek girls may not be unicorns, but that doesn’t mean we can’t create a little magic.

Contact j -  j @ geeksdreamgirl . com