Comments for Geek's Dream Girl http://geeksdreamgirl.com Geek's Dream Girl Wed, 23 May 2012 20:32:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on The Avengers: Lessons to be Learned by Mikaus http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/23/the-avengers-lessons-to-be-learned/#comment-272964 Mikaus Wed, 23 May 2012 20:32:08 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9724#comment-272964 You said Snark. I thought Half-Life... ah childhood. You said Snark. I thought Half-Life… ah childhood.

]]> Comment on When the Gay Outweighs the Geek – An Unexpected Encounter with Homophobia by Mouts http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/12/when-the-gay-outweighs-the-geek-an-unexpected-encounter-with-homophobia/#comment-272602 Mouts Wed, 23 May 2012 02:37:23 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9638#comment-272602 I'd like to second @Black Campbell when he says that you can't make people like you. Also, you can't make people think the way you do. You can't deny someone's right to believe as they do. You can believe homophobia is wrong, but you can't force that belief on someone else. If they left without fuss, simply excusing themselves, you can't ask more than that. Just so we're clear on this : I'm not condoning any kind of abuse, exclusion or even just being rude. A very hard thing about being understanding is understanding that others will not be. I encourage you to fight for equal rights but don't fall into the trap of mind control. I’d like to second @Black Campbell when he says that you can’t make people like you. Also, you can’t make people think the way you do.

You can’t deny someone’s right to believe as they do.

You can believe homophobia is wrong, but you can’t force that belief on someone else. If they left without fuss, simply excusing themselves, you can’t ask more than that.

Just so we’re clear on this : I’m not condoning any kind of abuse, exclusion or even just being rude. A very hard thing about being understanding is understanding that others will not be.

I encourage you to fight for equal rights but don’t fall into the trap of mind control.

]]> Comment on TV Cancellations: The Final Countdown? by j http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/16/tv-cancellations-the-final-countdown/#comment-272521 j Tue, 22 May 2012 20:58:47 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9701#comment-272521 @Jacob - Indeed. But Doctor Who is a very, very special case. For one thing, British television in general works differently - it's not uncommon for a TV show to disappear for a few years before coming back for another "series," for example (though absolutely Doctor Who was cancelled). For another... the new Doctor Who is considered the same show as the classic, but due to the unique nature of the show itself - the fact that the main character has had eleven actors and at least three times as many supporting characters have come and gone - it's hard to say it was a show that was "brought back." And given the many changes in formatting, showrunners, even backstory, when it came back in 2005, well, it's spiritually more similar to a "next generation" that remains firmly in the same universe, like the many incarnations of Star Trek. @Jacob – Indeed. But Doctor Who is a very, very special case. For one thing, British television in general works differently – it’s not uncommon for a TV show to disappear for a few years before coming back for another “series,” for example (though absolutely Doctor Who was cancelled). For another… the new Doctor Who is considered the same show as the classic, but due to the unique nature of the show itself – the fact that the main character has had eleven actors and at least three times as many supporting characters have come and gone – it’s hard to say it was a show that was “brought back.” And given the many changes in formatting, showrunners, even backstory, when it came back in 2005, well, it’s spiritually more similar to a “next generation” that remains firmly in the same universe, like the many incarnations of Star Trek.

]]> Comment on TV Cancellations: The Final Countdown? by Jacob http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/16/tv-cancellations-the-final-countdown/#comment-270014 Jacob Wed, 16 May 2012 18:52:33 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9701#comment-270014 Doctor Who *was* cancelled from the nineties through the late 00's...I don't know what the story of its return to television was, but it was on the air for thirty years before it sputtered out the first time. Doctor Who *was* cancelled from the nineties through the late 00′s…I don’t know what the story of its return to television was, but it was on the air for thirty years before it sputtered out the first time.

]]> Comment on When the Gay Outweighs the Geek – An Unexpected Encounter with Homophobia by Black Campbell http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/12/when-the-gay-outweighs-the-geek-an-unexpected-encounter-with-homophobia/#comment-269919 Black Campbell Wed, 16 May 2012 13:34:15 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9638#comment-269919 Why let it bother you? It doesn't matter if they left because they were unhappy with the couples being homosexual vs. any other aspect of their personality. They left, you giys bearly noticed...that's a win for all. You can't make people like you, whether it's because of your sense of humor, sexual preference, or if you might be competely irksome. Why let it bother you? It doesn’t matter if they left because they were unhappy with the couples being homosexual vs. any other aspect of their personality. They left, you giys bearly noticed…that’s a win for all.

You can’t make people like you, whether it’s because of your sense of humor, sexual preference, or if you might be competely irksome.

]]> Comment on When the Gay Outweighs the Geek – An Unexpected Encounter with Homophobia by GGG http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/12/when-the-gay-outweighs-the-geek-an-unexpected-encounter-with-homophobia/#comment-269384 GGG Mon, 14 May 2012 22:47:19 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9638#comment-269384 @Johenius: I really don't disagree with anything you say. If people feel the need to leave, it's absolutely their right to do so. If they left because they were uncomfortable around any PDAs, I'd think of them as being kind of ridiculous, but it wouldn't leave a bad taste in my mouth. Why? Because, to my knowledge, asexuality hasn't led to violence, bigotry, and hatred any time in the recent past. Unless you count religious fundamentalist views on sex in general, but that's really another article on a semi-related topic I have no intention of getting into right now. @Philo: Again, I agree. They had the right to leave, and I applaud them for making a mature, polite decision as to how to handle the situation, but I don't have to like that they felt the need to leave in the first place. As far as any concern on whether or not the event was homophobia, I don't want to get into particulars, but I can shed a bit more light on things. Apparently the reason homophobia came up was due to the folks who invited them receiving a post-event text containing some "very disrespectful" comments from the folks who left. On the whole, I'm glad I don't know the exact words used, and I don't intend to pry further. @Johenius: I really don’t disagree with anything you say. If people feel the need to leave, it’s absolutely their right to do so. If they left because they were uncomfortable around any PDAs, I’d think of them as being kind of ridiculous, but it wouldn’t leave a bad taste in my mouth. Why? Because, to my knowledge, asexuality hasn’t led to violence, bigotry, and hatred any time in the recent past. Unless you count religious fundamentalist views on sex in general, but that’s really another article on a semi-related topic I have no intention of getting into right now.

@Philo: Again, I agree. They had the right to leave, and I applaud them for making a mature, polite decision as to how to handle the situation, but I don’t have to like that they felt the need to leave in the first place.

As far as any concern on whether or not the event was homophobia, I don’t want to get into particulars, but I can shed a bit more light on things. Apparently the reason homophobia came up was due to the folks who invited them receiving a post-event text containing some “very disrespectful” comments from the folks who left. On the whole, I’m glad I don’t know the exact words used, and I don’t intend to pry further.

]]> Comment on When the Gay Outweighs the Geek – An Unexpected Encounter with Homophobia by Philo Pharynx http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/12/when-the-gay-outweighs-the-geek-an-unexpected-encounter-with-homophobia/#comment-269333 Philo Pharynx Mon, 14 May 2012 17:40:29 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9638#comment-269333 I agree with Johenius that I'd rather see an intolerant person leave than throw abuse. And I especially don't want them throwing stones. If someone's views are strong enough that they can't stay in a room with people holding hands, then I doubt they will be convinced by conversation. As a society we have to stop intolerant actions, but we cannot stop somebody's beliefs. I don't like that they left, but they have the right to do so. Of course this will be really awkward if it turns out not to be homophobia. If I had an emergency and had to leave suddenly, I'd be offended if somebody thought I was homophobic over it. I agree with Johenius that I’d rather see an intolerant person leave than throw abuse. And I especially don’t want them throwing stones. If someone’s views are strong enough that they can’t stay in a room with people holding hands, then I doubt they will be convinced by conversation. As a society we have to stop intolerant actions, but we cannot stop somebody’s beliefs. I don’t like that they left, but they have the right to do so.

Of course this will be really awkward if it turns out not to be homophobia. If I had an emergency and had to leave suddenly, I’d be offended if somebody thought I was homophobic over it.

]]> Comment on When the Gay Outweighs the Geek – An Unexpected Encounter with Homophobia by Johenius http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/12/when-the-gay-outweighs-the-geek-an-unexpected-encounter-with-homophobia/#comment-269291 Johenius Mon, 14 May 2012 09:51:56 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9638#comment-269291 @GGG in answer to @Anonymous: I agree that homophobia isn't great, and that their leaving is a problem - but if they'd left because they were asexual and uncomfortable around PDA, both hetero- and homosexual, would that have left as bad a taste in your mouth? It occurs to me that life is full of discomforts, some good and some bad (the bad defined in this case as "small-minded"), and that trying to distinguish what is good and bad is difficult. Your response to that discomfort is really what defines a person - both the immediate response (quietly leaving) and the longer-term response (hopefully, introspecting, realizing why you felt discomfort and deciding to not be like that any longer). At the end of the day, a polite response like leaving quietly is a MASSIVE step in the right direction for a society as steeped in intolerance as the Western world. That said, as I opened with, yes - it isn't great. But we can hope that this leads to something better. @GGG in answer to @Anonymous: I agree that homophobia isn’t great, and that their leaving is a problem – but if they’d left because they were asexual and uncomfortable around PDA, both hetero- and homosexual, would that have left as bad a taste in your mouth? It occurs to me that life is full of discomforts, some good and some bad (the bad defined in this case as “small-minded”), and that trying to distinguish what is good and bad is difficult. Your response to that discomfort is really what defines a person – both the immediate response (quietly leaving) and the longer-term response (hopefully, introspecting, realizing why you felt discomfort and deciding to not be like that any longer).
At the end of the day, a polite response like leaving quietly is a MASSIVE step in the right direction for a society as steeped in intolerance as the Western world. That said, as I opened with, yes – it isn’t great. But we can hope that this leads to something better.

]]> Comment on When the Gay Outweighs the Geek – An Unexpected Encounter with Homophobia by GGG http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/12/when-the-gay-outweighs-the-geek-an-unexpected-encounter-with-homophobia/#comment-269141 GGG Sun, 13 May 2012 12:24:54 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9638#comment-269141 @Anonymous: The act of leaving the event if they were uncomfortable vs. acting out, being insulting, etc. is commendable. But if they leave because they're not comfortable being around gay people? That's homophobia. Polite, maturely handled homophobia is still homophobia. Merriam-Webster defines homophobia as "irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals." Homophobia doesn't have to be violent, or loud, or disruptive. @Anonymous: The act of leaving the event if they were uncomfortable vs. acting out, being insulting, etc. is commendable. But if they leave because they’re not comfortable being around gay people? That’s homophobia. Polite, maturely handled homophobia is still homophobia. Merriam-Webster defines homophobia as “irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals.” Homophobia doesn’t have to be violent, or loud, or disruptive.

]]> Comment on When the Gay Outweighs the Geek – An Unexpected Encounter with Homophobia by Anonymous http://geeksdreamgirl.com/2012/05/12/when-the-gay-outweighs-the-geek-an-unexpected-encounter-with-homophobia/#comment-269014 Anonymous Sat, 12 May 2012 18:24:37 +0000 http://geeksdreamgirl.com/?p=9638#comment-269014 Even if it is true, I think it's unfair to call it homophobia. If someone's uncomfortable with a situation or their surroundings and leaves rather than causing a scene you can't really berate them for it. Even if it is true, I think it’s unfair to call it homophobia. If someone’s uncomfortable with a situation or their surroundings and leaves rather than causing a scene you can’t really berate them for it.

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