The Unrequited Kind – How to Move the Eff On

I Love Me

Pining over unrequited romantic affection is a form of emotional masochism. It doesn't serve you in anyway, except for making you feel awful. Unrequited love only brings pain and feelings of martyrdom, as if your suffering somewhat makes your feelings more pure. That’s an extremely warped perception and not at all emotionally healthy. Romantic rejection is one of those themes that seem to permeate our popular culture – songs, movies, novels, TV shows, comic books all featuring sad stories about … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: These “Nice Guys” Don’t Take No For An Answer


Dear Anon-O-Box, I'm a straight girl with a fairly successful profile, so I get a lot of responses and many of them are from nice guys that just aren't as much my type as others who respond to me. I don't want to lead them on, but I also don't want to be mean when letting them know I'm not interested in them romantically and we don't have enough in common really for me to want to spend time even building a friendship. I know the dating world is hard, so I don't want to be harsh when I … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: Divorced, But Still Under The Same Roof


Dear Anon-O-Box, I'm a straight geeky guy who is in a bit of a situation. I'm currently in the middle of an amicable, but certain divorce. This is after about 5 years of minimal intimacy and no sex (3 of those years married,) so as you might imagine, emotionally, things are pretty distant. Anyway, my ex is of the opinion that matters are all but final and that we should seek other partners. Aside from my stark fears (my ex was my first kiss...) I genuinely wonder - would any women actually … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: I Like Stand-Up Comedy, Not Stand-Up Tragedy


Dear Anon-O-Box, I'm a straight geek girl who is starting to lose hope with online dating. I'm smart, friendly, and relatively good-looking, and I think my profile is pretty solid. The problem: none of the exchanges I've had have turned into dates. Every time a conversation gets to the "let's get coffee" part, the guy fails to respond when I suggest a place to meet - or worse! - I get stood up. I don't think it's a timing thing - I'm not suggesting coffee after just one message, and I'm … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: Shy Guy Afraid of Dating Sites


Dear Anon-O-Box, I'm terrified of dating sites.  Well, not so much "terrified", as they make me really uncomfortable.  It just feels like every time I'd meet a person there, all our conversations/interactions/etc would have a feeling of "you are expected to form a relationship with this person" hanging over them.  I don't know how to put it better, but it feels like there's this glaring expectations of how I feel about each person.  I don't really know that I could easily form a relationship … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: I’m A Turtle and I Hate the Dating Race!


Dear Anon-O-Box, I suppose if I had to boil down my problems with the female of the species it would come down to simply moving too slowly.  I'm not fond of dating sites because I feel they put an unspoken pressure on the relationship from the start when I want to just know a girl before even considering asking her out. I tend to take about a year of solid crushing before I'm even willing to do that considering, and even if I'm ready and willing to ask someone out they tend to already … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: Should I De-Geek My Dating Profile?


Dear Anon-O-Box, How do you phrase something to sound "not very geeky?"  I've been told to un-geek my dating profile because it turns everyone away, but your advice (rightly so) says to put the most unique things about me in there.  So how do I tell guys that I go to conventions in costume without saying, "I go to conventions in costume!"? Signed, Convention Cosplayer e answers: Dear CC, Who is this person who says being geeky "turns everyone away?" If they had a face, we would … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: I’m A Geek Girl With No Emails…


Dear Anon-O-Box, It is mentioned in several places that women on dating sites are inundated with emails and (ugh) winks. I don't seem to suffer from this problem. I get absolutely no response; emails, winks, rotten tomatoes or otherwise. Not even creeps or scammers bother me. I have a picture (it isn't the greatest, but I don't look like a swamp beast), and a passing grasp of the English language. And those are just the basic qualifications! What am I doing wrong? Signed, Single Female … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: The 10 Commandments of Online Dating Safety


Dear Anon-O-Box, I've been single for the past six months and I feel I'm ready to jump back into dating. The problem is I have issues haphazardly meeting people while out and about because 1) I'm usually surrounded by other people that I know and 2) outside of my little circle of comfort, I'm just too shy. In the past, my relationships have blossomed from friendships that started in school, but having recently graduated and moved to a new city combined with coming out of a three-year … [Read more...]

DEER NO-NO BOX: I’se Got Sum Problemz


That there E wantit me t’ take up her datin’ advice No-No Box fer t’day. Hain’t one t’ say no t’ payin’ work, so Ah said ah reckined Ah’d be up fer it. Found out weren’t no pay to be had, but Ah’m supposin’ that’s just me not askin’ what I otter. Anyhows, she opint up her No-No Box so’s there’d be queckshins fer me. Ah looked fer only the most shortest ones in thar. Figgered Ah’d do more ‘n one since Ah ain’t lazy like that ol’ E. Fer some reason, none o’ these had names on ‘em, so I hadda … [Read more...]