Where there is theatre of any kind, you can often find gamers, Star Wars aficionados, science fiction fans and big imaginations. Burlesque holds an incredible array of fantastically talented people, many of them proud geeks. With GenCon and PAX having burlesque events this year, it's important to know a little burlesque etiquette before you check out shows where geek, nerd and burlesque intersect. As a stage manager and occasional stunt! host (long story) I've seen a lot of audiences. Keep my … [Read more...]
Dear Anon-O-Box: These “Nice Guys” Don’t Take No For An Answer
17 June 2011 by 13 Comments
Dear Anon-O-Box, I'm a straight girl with a fairly successful profile, so I get a lot of responses and many of them are from nice guys that just aren't as much my type as others who respond to me. I don't want to lead them on, but I also don't want to be mean when letting them know I'm not interested in them romantically and we don't have enough in common really for me to want to spend time even building a friendship. I know the dating world is hard, so I don't want to be harsh when I … [Read more...]
Stepping Out from Behind the Screen: When A GM Finally Gets To Be A Player
7 June 2011 by 5 Comments
As someone who is almost always the GM, it can be a strange experience to fold one’s screen and take one’s place in a different seat when someone else wants to run a game. Since tonight was the second session of my husband Steve’s Star Wars campaign, the first game I’ve played in quite a while, it seems like an opportune time to talk about this subject. It’s a delicate balancing act. You want to have fun, and you want to be as engaged as a player as you wish your own players would … [Read more...]
Dear Anon-O-Box: Do I Give These Guys The Time of Day?
11 March 2011 by Leave a Comment
Dear Anon-O-Box, So, here's the thing... I just signed up for a major dating site and I've already gotten a few messages, however the brunt of the messages are "hey gorgeous" and "you're pretty, I'm looking for a friend with benefits." Yikes! I know you recommend that online daters take time to respond to every message they receive, but I'd rather not give these guys any attention. It's obvious they haven't read my profile and are just looking for a booty call. What do you recommend doing … [Read more...]
How Would Online Dating Change If You HAD To Write a “No Thanks” Email?
21 September 2009 by 19 Comments
Let's engage in a little fantasy here. (Not that kind of fantasy. Seriously.) (No, not the kind of fantasy with elves and dragons either.) Let's imagine what online dating would be like if writing a "Thanks, but no thanks" email were a requirement, rather than an option. But first, let's examine the current system and why it can really suck. … [Read more...]
Dear Anon-O-Box: Recently Separated and Being Asked Out Already
24 July 2009 by 4 Comments
Dear Anon-O-Box, Soon after the word got out that my spouse wanted a divorce, I started getting asked out. While I'm flattered (and need to be flattered) right now, the divorce isn't final yet and I don't know what's appropriate. It's understood that I'm not looking for a new relationship yet, and while I think going out to be social would be fun and do me some good, I don't want people to get the wrong impression. Is there a road map for any of this? - Stung and Separated Dear … [Read more...]
Why Do Women Have Online Dating Profiles If They’re Not Going to Reply To Emails?
1 May 2009 by 12 Comments
A common complaint that I've heard from men is that they don't receive reply emails from ladies. "Why do they even HAVE a dating profile if they're not going to write back?" There's no one answer to this question, but here are a few that I know are true. … [Read more...]
It Was Trash From First Hello: Fix Your Dating Email Subject Lines, Guys!
10 April 2009 by 9 Comments
Still wondering why nobody replies to your online dating emails? You've read her profile! You've mentioned stuff about her profile in the email! You didn't cut and paste! You came up with a pretty cool question that she should be dying to answer. But yet, nothing. In fact, she hasn't even OPENED the email. What's gone wrong? … [Read more...]
First Contact Emails: Don’t Thunder Toward The Castle At Full Speed
19 March 2009 by 2 Comments
"OH MY GOD! HE'S COMING RIGHT AT ME!! AAAAAAAAAAA!" This is the thought that you want furthest from the mind of the women you email, right? Too bad your email makes her think that very thought. What? Really, e? Really, Geek Friends. Really. … [Read more...]
Online Dating Etiquette 101: What If She’s Not Like Her Picture
12 March 2009 by 1 Comment
Let's imagine together, geek friends... You've found this great girl on your favorite dating site. She's beautiful, she's funny, she's got similar interests. You talk for hours on IMs and then on the phone. Things are looking pretty good. You set up a date. As you're walking towards the coffeehouse you see her. Or well, you think it's her... … [Read more...]
