Geek Dream Girl’s Guide to Gift-Giving

It’s that time of year again. Carols are in full force on the radio, office parties are filling up your calendar, and shopping centers are brimming to capacity. Even if you don’t celebrate Christmas, exchanging gifts this time of year is still a nice opportunity to do something special for someone you care about. Gift-giving with someone you are dating, however, often becomes challenging and stressful, especially when we want to find that one perfect item. What gift is too much? Too little? … [Read more...]

How to Effectively Use Descriptive Language in Your Dating Profile


What kind of language do you use in your dating profile? Writing a strong dating profile isn't easy, a lot of the clients I've worked with have told me that they have no idea how to write about themselves. Their stories are not really that unusual. Many people struggle with being able to talk themselves up or highlight their best features in their dating profile. The words we choose to describe ourselves (or our ideal matches) can have a huge impact on how your dating profile is received … [Read more...]

How to survive an awkward first date


When you're in the online dating scene, eventually you're going to have a bad first date. It doesn't matter how thoroughly you think you've screened someone, sometimes there just isn't spark or the other party has misrepresented themselves online. Ultimately, it's hard to gauge how well you'll actually get along with someone until you meet in person. Here are some strategies for how to minimize the suckage of a not-so-great first date. Make the first date informal When planning a first … [Read more...]

Hacking dating site algorithms to find a better match


  If you've been on dating websites for a while you've probably thought to yourself as some point or another "where are they coming up with these suggested matches from?" Some dating websites, such as OkCupid, base their compatibility scores on how you answer their questions; other sites determine whom they send your way via the general preferences you’ve listed on your profile.  Depending on the website and how much profile information you’ve filled out, the matches that are being … [Read more...]

The Unrequited Kind – How to Move the Eff On

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Pining over unrequited romantic affection is a form of emotional masochism. It doesn't serve you in anyway, except for making you feel awful. Unrequited love only brings pain and feelings of martyrdom, as if your suffering somewhat makes your feelings more pure. That’s an extremely warped perception and not at all emotionally healthy. Romantic rejection is one of those themes that seem to permeate our popular culture – songs, movies, novels, TV shows, comic books all featuring sad stories about … [Read more...]

Great Dates in Fifty States (& Canada): Toronto, Ontario – The Geek Edition

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Though I've been writing for the site for a while now and it dawned upon me that I hadn't contributed to the ongoing series of Great Dates posts yet. There's already a post in GDG's archives from 2009 with some great general suggestions about where to go in Toronto from a guest contributor. But I felt that there were some geeky landmarks that definitely we worth adding to this. Here are my picks for the must-see places to check out and great geek dating spots in Toronto. Silver … [Read more...]

What everybody ought to know about dating when you’re chronically ill


Disclaimer: Before I jump into this, I want to preface this article by saying this is based on my personal experience living with chronic pain and illness (Lupus and probable fibromyalgia as well). This piece is not meant to speak for how others experience these conditions or any other type of illness. Nor do I think these suggestions are necessarily universally applicable or useful for everyone. At the end of the day you know yourself & your body best.  I struggled with whether I wanted to … [Read more...]

“Thanks, but I’m not interested” – How to Respond to Unwanted Messages


When you’ve received a message on a dating site from a person you’re not interested in, what do you do? There’s two basic schools of thought – either ignore the message entirely, or send a polite decline. Is one method better than the other? That comes down to a matter of personal opinion. We’ve included the case for both strategies and how to navigate this territory. No response required You don’t owe anyone on an online dating site a response. Ultimately, the other users on the … [Read more...]

The Top Five Statements That Hurt Your Online Dating Profile


There are some phrases and themes that seem to pop up over and over again in less than fabulous online dating profiles. More often than not, people are simply unaware that some seemingly innocuous sounding things can actually be huge turn-offs. (Of course there are extreme versions of crazy stuff people write too, like this dude.) We've compiled a list of the top things you should never include on a dating profile and some helpful hints about how they can be corrected. 1) "I don't know … [Read more...]

Love & Dating Lessons from Buffy The Vampire Slayer


As a young teenager, I jumped on the Buffy the Vampire Slayer (BtVS) uber-fan bandwagon. The show's 1997-2003 run roughly coincided with my preteen stage and into my high school years. As a nerdy and fairly socially awkward kid, Buffy and the Scoobies felt like family. For one TV hour a week, for 7 years, I would eat popcorn and lose myself in the show. As cheesy as it may sound, in those crucial emotional developmental years, Joss Whedon & co. taught me a lot about life and love … [Read more...]