The Geek’s Dream Girl Guide to Convention Etiquette & Meeting New People


  The focus of our site is primarily on how to connect with like minded geeks via online dating, but we also actively encourage getting out into the world and meeting people face to face. With GDG boss lady  E. Foley at GenCon this week and a flurry of other conventions happening across North America (I’ll be at Toronto’s Fan Expo next week - come say hi at the Nerd Girl Burlesque booth), I wanted to touch on the right and wrong ways to go about meeting fellow geeks at … [Read more...]

Do You Make These First Contact Message Mistakes?

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Hello again fellow geeks! This week I wanted to address an issue that many online daters struggle with, sending a great first contact e-mail. It can be intimidating to try to compose a message that catches someone’s attention, but if you try to avoid these common pit falls, you’ll move from online dating n00b to superhero levels of confidence. Below I’ve outlined some of the things you should generally try to avoid when sending a first message to someone on a dating site. Writing too … [Read more...]

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Online Daters (Part 2)


As a continuation of my previous article, I'm outlining the principle from the classic self-help book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. When examining each of these behaviors, it’s easy to see how they can be applied to the dating world. In part two of this post, we’ll continue to look at habits four through seven of highly effective daters. If you haven’t read about habits one through three yet, do not pass go, do not collect $200 – go back and read it now. Then … [Read more...]

The best writing exercise to improve your online dating profile


Often when I ask a client what they’re looking for in a potential partner they don’t know how to answer. Creating a dating wish list is relatively simple to do and will definitely improve the quality of what you choose to include in your profile. It’s a valuable writing exercise because once you are clear in your own mind about what you are looking for your entire outlook on online dating will change. With any dating profile you’re writing as much about yourself you are also writing about … [Read more...]

Win A Dating Profile Makeover – Free from Geek’s Dream Girl


Is your dating profile currently lacking in results? You’ve been told there are Plenty of Fish in the sea, but every time you cast your reel it seems to come back empty. You’re so over that stupid (Ok)Cupid and are nearing the point of fearing being forever alone and never finding your true Match. Or maybe the situation isn’t quite that dire, but you’d just like to go on some dates. That’s equally valid too. We get it – looking for love online can sometimes be frustrating. Luckily for … [Read more...]

Picking up the pieces: a geek’s guide to going through a breakup


The focus of our site is usually on getting you dates in the first place, but what happens when things fall apart? If you've been seeing someone for a long time, or even if it's a newer thing - breaking up is hard to do.  Here are some ideas about how to take care of yourself when you're dealing with a breakup: 1) It's okay to be selfish  Selfishness is often painted as a negative quality in our culture, but sometimes you do really have to do what is best for yourself. When you're … [Read more...]

Dating Profile Help: The Summer Loving Edition


Yay, summer is finally, officially here and like The Zombies song says, "it's the time of season for loving!" That's right, the nights are long, the days are hot and I sincerely hope you are feeling the amorous midsummer vibes right about now. It's also currently Pride Month is many places, so happy Pride to all of the LGBTQ geeky folks (and allies) who are celebrating! Here in Toronto, we're in the midst of Pride Week, which is one of the largest in North America. There are also still lots … [Read more...]

Deal Breakers for the Geek Dating Crowd


In the kindest and gentlest way possible I need to tell you something: do not be a desperate dater. Assert yourself and know that you deserve to be treated well. In short, know what your relationship deal breakers are and refuse to tolerate poor behavior. Now, to clarify this a bit more. A deal breaker is an action or behavior that cannot be overlooked in a romantic partnership. It outweighs any other redeeming qualities the person may exhibit.  I’m not talking about nitpicking trivial things, … [Read more...]

How to navigate the online dating scene’s hierarchy of chat


You’ve spent hours looking at profiles on online dating sites and someone catches your eye. After sending off an icebreaker message the conversation seems to going well. When deciding to exchange contact information with this would-be-date, there’s probably a goal of meeting up offline. How you choose to chat with this person is a huge part of the getting to know you game. There are a plethora of communication options available to you, so it’s understandable that you may feel lost about the … [Read more...]

#GenCon Speed Dating Causes A Wedding: Congrats Michael & Jess!


Congratulations to Michael & Jessica, who are getting hitched today. Turns out, that really speedy date they had in The House at Union Station was the conversation that sparked what will hopefully be a lifelong romance. Congrats, you two! Got Your GenCon Speed Dating Ticket? Here's how you can get in on this fun event and possibly meet your soulgeek: Tickets for MEN seeking WOMEN: $20 (21-35) (currently sold out, but come with generics just in case we have dropouts!) $20 … [Read more...]