Guys: Put Your Cock(iness) Away, It Has No Place In Your Dating Profile

Put your cock(iness) away, please.

Made ya click. We've been talking lately about things that are the death of a geek guy's dating profile. Things like being Captain Obvious or accidentally sending the message that you don't want a girlfriend. But what if you swing the pendulum too far the other way? What if you get... cocky? We delve into more men's profiles. Remember, these are quotes from the profiles of guys who are looking for a geek girl like me - a late 20s/early 30s, educated, professional … [Read more...]

Guys: Your Dating Profile Is Saying That You Don’t Want A Girlfriend

Do you want a girlfriend, or someone to sit on the couch while you play video games all weekend?

Last week, we looked into how being Captain Obvious was making your dating profile ho-hum and boring (and ultimately, making you seem not worthy of attention or emails). Today, we delve into more men's profiles to show a totally different epidemic: guys who are on dating sites but have profiles that make it seem like they really don't care if they get a girlfriend. Remember, these are quotes from the profiles of guys who are looking for a geek girl like me - a late 20s/early 30s, … [Read more...]

Is Your Dating Profile Making You Seem Like Captain Obvious?


The unfortunate thing about most people is that they don't bother to check out what the profiles of other people like them say. Let's make a trip to and look at some men's profiles. No guys, this won't make you gay. In fact, if you hide your profile and then search, nobody will know but you. I'm looking for things that guys write again and again in their profiles. Things that make girls (especially geek girls) roll their eyes and move on to another guy. For purposes of this … [Read more...]

Who Wants The Secret To More Replies on


What if I told you there was a surefire way to increase the replies you get to emails you send on by 44%? And that this "trick" could be applied to plenty of other dating sites just as easily with similar results? Don't worry, I haven't gone all sleazy pick-up artist on you. (You know how my lovely assistant J and I feel about those people.) But I am going to tell you a quick and easy way to make your inbox a little more full (or less empty, depending on how your experience has … [Read more...]

Geek’s Dream Girl’s Top 10 Articles of 2010


Your clicks, retweets, and Facebookings have spoken! Here are the top 10 articles of 2010 by traffic: 1. Needles of Knitting +5: Using The Craft Skill To Its Best Advantage 2. GenCon 2010 Update: Castle Ravenloft Board Game 3. Coping With Being Single: Ur Doin’ It Wrong 4. Brainless Act Leads to Smart Decision 5. LiveBlogging: Dungeons & Dragons Experience 2010 (DDXP) 6. Top 5 Anime Speech Patterns that Drive Us Nuts 7. 5 Gosh-Honest Reasons Why Your Dating Life … [Read more...]

Acting Like A Gay Guy Helps You Get The Girl


Despite what you may think by the picture to the right, I"m not going to advise you to kiss other dudes in order to attract women. (Ironically enough, if you're a girl and you kiss your girlfriends at the bar, you'll attract guys. Funny how that all works, isn't it?) There's a great Best of Craigslist posting entitled How to Meet Women -- Advice from a Gay Man. In it, the author points out that the reason most straight men are horrible at approaching women is the reason why so many gay … [Read more...]

Are You Unwittingly Telling Women They’re On Your Back Burner?


You've heard me explain why winks are a bad idea. And I'm not the only online dating coach that thinks that winks send the wrong message to the very people you're trying to attract. While chatting with a new client who was lamenting his lack of dates, he told me that he emailed about one woman per day and "winked at many more." *facepalm* He clarified later and said that while he did wink at lots of women, he usually went back and emailed them later. How much later? Oh, a few days, maybe a … [Read more...]

10 Reasons Why Your Online Dating Website Is Like A Gym


As part of my #fit4gencon initiative, I joined a local gym. This, of course, has reminded me about online dating.  (There's not much in this world that doesn't remind me of online dating. It's an illness, I tell ya.) Presenting, in no particular order, the 10 reasons why your online dating website is like a gym. 1. There's a free trial, but you gotta give up your personal information, even if it's just to peek in the windows. With the exception of the free sites, most sites require you to … [Read more...]

New Year’s Resolutions To Turn Your Dating Life Around in MMX

It's the time of year when everyone is making their list of resolutions and making the affirmation that MMX will be the best year ever. You probably have resolutions about your health (maybe even joining #fit4gencon!), your career, your habits, or even your hobbies. But do you have a resolution about your dating life? Wouldn't it be great to be able to ring in 2011 with someone special or at least look back on 2010 and be able to say you had an active and fun romantic life and met some … [Read more...]

How Would Online Dating Change If You HAD To Write a “No Thanks” Email?

Let's engage in a little fantasy here. (Not that kind of fantasy.  Seriously.) (No, not the kind of fantasy with elves and dragons either.) Let's imagine what online dating would be like if writing a "Thanks, but no thanks" email were a requirement, rather than an option. But first, let's examine the current system and why it can really suck. … [Read more...]