Age Is Just A Number (Unless She’s Seventeen)

Holding hands, by nic snell

Recently, a friend of mine started seeing a guy she met through an online dating site. They hit it off online, and then again when they met in person after a few weeks of chatting. The sex is fantastic, they share similar interests and hobbies, and they can comfortably spend hours just hanging out not doing much of anything. For all intents and purposes, they’re perfectly suited. Except that she’s a nineteen-year-old college student and he’s thirty-five. This is not a cautionary tale, or a … [Read more...]

SALE: Black Friday – Cyber Monday 2011


We hope you had a scrumtrulescent Thanksgiving! Ready to find that special geeky someone to kiss on New Year's Eve? We can help make that happen. From now until the end of Cyber Monday (11:59 pm Eastern on 11/28/11), you can save up to $50 with code ONYX2011. Choose Your Weapon, Adventurer! "Just a scroll, please! I think I've got this dating thing mostly figured out." Save 50% off our ebook! You Geek, They Grok: A Geek's Guide to Leveling Up Your Dating Game is the ultimate guide … [Read more...]

Conversation Chillers: Weapons


As you undoubtedly already know, here at Geek's Dream Girl we're all fans of geek guys.  I don't think I've ever dated a guy who couldn't be called a geek guy, actually.  However, it's also no secret that some can be a little, well, awkward.  There's an internal filter that we can all access; some naturally use it depending on the situation, while others need to be reminded that it even exists.  So I began to wonder: even if you're on a date with a proud nerd girl like myself, are there actually … [Read more...]

Online Dating 101: The Pesky Age Bracket

Ever wonder exactly what age group you should be listing on your dating profile? You're not alone. It's a question I get a lot from my clients and at my convention events. XKCD's comic (above, click for the original) gives the following formula for determining the youngest person you should date: Your age divided by 2, then add 7. I am 32. According to this formula, I should not be dating anyone younger than 23. A Baseline, But Not A Hard Number For me, that number is still too low. I … [Read more...]

Ladies: Your OkCupid Profile Is A Red Light District

OkCupid Red Light - Replies Selectively

One of the features of OkCupid that is both wonderful and troublesome is the Message lights system. When someone is logged in and looking at your profile, one of three traffic light colors will appear: Green: Replies often Yellow: Replies selectively Red: Replies very selectively As far as I can find out, there is no specific documentation on OkCupid's end explaining the math behind the lights. There's much speculation on the OkCupid forum and in user's journals about the system and … [Read more...]

Is Your Dating Profile Making You Seem Like Captain Obvious?


The unfortunate thing about most people is that they don't bother to check out what the profiles of other people like them say. Let's make a trip to and look at some men's profiles. No guys, this won't make you gay. In fact, if you hide your profile and then search, nobody will know but you. I'm looking for things that guys write again and again in their profiles. Things that make girls (especially geek girls) roll their eyes and move on to another guy. For purposes of this … [Read more...]

Geek Speed Dating at GenCon: How Will It Work?


I've gotten a lot of questions about how speed dating at GenCon will work, so I've dedicated a whole post here to everything you'd ever want to know. Here are the basics: Geek Speed Dating Find love at Gen Con? Sure can! Go on several mini-dates with single geeks like yourself and maybe you'll leave Indy with a love connection! Almost all the guy tickets are sold already, but we could definitely use more ladies!  Not surprised the guy tickets sold out first... but I know we'll have some … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: These “Nice Guys” Don’t Take No For An Answer


Dear Anon-O-Box, I'm a straight girl with a fairly successful profile, so I get a lot of responses and many of them are from nice guys that just aren't as much my type as others who respond to me. I don't want to lead them on, but I also don't want to be mean when letting them know I'm not interested in them romantically and we don't have enough in common really for me to want to spend time even building a friendship. I know the dating world is hard, so I don't want to be harsh when I … [Read more...]

The Geek’s Dream Girl Geek Dating eBook Is Here!

You Geek, They Grok: Geek Online Dating Advice, Tips, & Tricks

I'd like to introduce you to my new eBook,  called You Geek, They Grok: A Geek's Guide to Leveling Up Your Online Dating Game. It's the ultimate guide to successfully leveling up from online dating newbie to being in an awesome (and hopefully geeky!) relationship. Click here to read all about it. If you have any questions about the book, feel free to leave a comment below. I'll be happy to answer them. … [Read more...]

Dear Anon-O-Box: Divorced, But Still Under The Same Roof


Dear Anon-O-Box, I'm a straight geeky guy who is in a bit of a situation. I'm currently in the middle of an amicable, but certain divorce. This is after about 5 years of minimal intimacy and no sex (3 of those years married,) so as you might imagine, emotionally, things are pretty distant. Anyway, my ex is of the opinion that matters are all but final and that we should seek other partners. Aside from my stark fears (my ex was my first kiss...) I genuinely wonder - would any women actually … [Read more...]